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Ok, here's my dilema ...
The Divorse could be finale 12/20 (just 60 short days after I filed) But before the divorse is final I have one more big decision to make ...
Request to have him tested for drugs ... or not.
He moved out Oct 06, and back in June 07, The kids and I moved out Oct 07 after finding out about her.
Since then when her name comes up the word "Drugs" isn't far behind. Then I've now found out about another woman from 2001. She Has done time for selling and using drugs.
In the last year, the stbx's actions have been very iratic friendly and kind one minute, and an hour latter, hatful angry, etc. Many people have asked me if he's doing drugs.
Me being the Drug-virigin that I am know nothing about this kind of things.
My priority is my kids! if stbx and ow are doing drugs, I may need to fight for sole custody.
What do you think? How do you know? What should I do??
The Divorse could be finale 12/20 (just 60 short days after I filed) But before the divorse is final I have one more big decision to make ...
Request to have him tested for drugs ... or not.
He moved out Oct 06, and back in June 07, The kids and I moved out Oct 07 after finding out about her.
Since then when her name comes up the word "Drugs" isn't far behind. Then I've now found out about another woman from 2001. She Has done time for selling and using drugs.
In the last year, the stbx's actions have been very iratic friendly and kind one minute, and an hour latter, hatful angry, etc. Many people have asked me if he's doing drugs.
Me being the Drug-virigin that I am know nothing about this kind of things.
My priority is my kids! if stbx and ow are doing drugs, I may need to fight for sole custody.
What do you think? How do you know? What should I do??
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
Good Luck...a bad deal for sure!
I've been there! I didn't want to open a can of worms, but what if something happened to the children or they were traumatized by dad's behavior because I did not act? Heck, I could legally held responsible (if not morally) if I suspected drug abuse and said nothing. I spent twice as much in legal fees to have it drafted in the divorce judgement that my X go to rehab/AA/NA before he was allowed to have overnight visitation, that he was not to drink/drug within 12 hours of visitation, and if he didn't comply....he could be drug tested. Well....I had to contact the court and ask that he be investigated due to him drinking before a visitation (he doesn't know this yet!). It's a tough road to follow, but it's better to be safe than sorry!
BIIIIIG HUG!