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Has anyone read a good self-help book?

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I got inspired by one of the discussions that I read involving the "save you marraige" websites. I had also looked at those but decided against them for the same reason that others have- that you can not save a relationship that is only important to you. However, I found the idea of working on myself to be a exciting and wonderfully decadent idea. I have read books about being a great person for my children, my husband and a few others I could name, but it has been a while since I worried about doing some soul searching for myself.
Please, give me some recommendations for some good secular self improvement books. I am waiting with my library card in hand.
Marie
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Everyone is talking about "The Secret" it might be a good place to start. It's about moving forward and being grateful. I just had it given to me and must start it!
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My stbwasband has read that book-we'll see.
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"How to Win Your Husband Back.... Before It's Too Late" by Gary Smalley

It's a great book if that is your ultimate goal. Goes back and forth between sacred and secular views.
About three weeks after my STBX left...I started to do the OPPOSITE of what the book said! lol
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you can find this a most libraries, I hope I get the name right...

"People Pleasers" or "Pleasing People"

This book helped turn my life around.

and, sorry to say you are right, if the marriage is only important to one party, it's no party at all.

good luck with your reading!
riverwalker
riverwalker
Check out the Hay House publishing site - http://www.hayhouse.com/ - there is so much good stuff there that I wouldn't know where to start.

Also, if you like to listen as well as read - check out http://www.hayhouseradio.com - a lot of great free audio programs (after you register).
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I really enjoyed the Marianne Williamson books "A Woman's Worth" and "A Return to Love" Also, "You Can Heal Your Life" by Louis Hay
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Marie, It is not necessarily true that you can't save a relationship that is only important to you. It takes more work but it can be done. Try Reading Divorce Busting and Divorce Remedy by Michele Weiner Davis. They have saved my marriage. I moved out, filed for D and am now moving back home thanks to her advice. It's not just a book on saving your marriage but a great book on improving just you!
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