After 19 years marriage, my STBX moved out while I was at work, and out of blue tells me "because there hasn't been any love in our marriage for a long time" and that he needed "space and time", but "would you like to come visit me for the night at my new apartment?". Only to find out OW existed. I was an emotional wreck, and it seemed like he kind of got-off on me being hurt and shakey when I needed to be in contact with him for any reason. He was calm, cool, and smug. Told me he wanted a divorce, so I filed and got with it immediately and hired the only local divorce lawyer. He moved in with OW two months later. One year later now that I've stabilized and am feeling better than I have in years, and divorce is just weeks away, and I have met a male friend. We live in a small towm population 9,000 so often see each other while with our significant others now at community functions. Its ackward, but we just try to avoid them. STBX always tries to "run" into us while there with this big cheesy grin that looks like Bob from the male enhancement commercial. Now...the several times we've had to have contact to settle things (just the two of us) he acts like the nervous shakey one, and seems just angry?!?! Its wierd, I've given him what he asked for?? It's like me being calm, settled and happy just irritates him. Then when were out, he's back to cheesy smiling Bob. Anyone else experienced this odd behavior?
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