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H is coming over today

deleted_user
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My husband is coming over today to put away patio furniture, rake leaves, do outside work etc. I'll be at work when he gets here but I'll be done with work before he is done with the outside chores.
We had our last marriage counseling session this past Tues. after not seeing or speaking to each other for 6 weeks. It was the last session we will have as he's said he still doesn't want to be in this marriage.
Question- Should I come home after work while I know he's still going to be here or should I go to a friends until I know he's gone?
I still want to work things out but I'm trying to detach as that feels like a better place to be than in the hope stage.
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if you are in 2 different places you may want to visit a friend. if you feel like you are going to say or do something you may regret you may want to hold off on seeing him until you are strong enough to.
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Sounds like it would be best for you not to be there. It's all still so very fresh for you, there is no reason for you to put yourself through the pain.
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I am sure I would either look pathetic and sad or be so detached that I'd look like I didn't care at all- bitchy even.
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It's very easy at this point for the other person to mistake you having the strength to fight for them and the relationship as weakness.

Why put yourself through it. Take some time to sort your emotions out. It would be really painfull if you saw him reached out and he rejected you.
solongbye
solongbye
After the stuff I've gone through and am still going through, I say go to a friend's house. Distance does wonders for the heart and soul.
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I agree with all your other friends here on ds. to much hurt. i am new at this, i can tell you that once you know they do not want the relationship distance is really good for your healing.
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Personally, I would go to your friends, I realize how hard it is, but for yourself it may be the best thing to do.
Mine slipped into town yesterday, and had a quick visit with his daughter, I left before he got there was just a lot easier on me
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