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I am just about to file for divorce, but my marriage has been over for a long time. I do not want to become bitter towards any men that had nothing to do with the debacle called my marriage, but have not had any male friends for many years. I would like to start meeting new people in general, and men for friendships in particular. The entire reason I am interested in this is to have hope and faith in the opposite sex vs. falling into a depressive pit of anger towards them.
So far, the attempts I have made are less than satisfactory. We meet, get along fine, and then poof. Nothing. I am not sure what men are looking for particularly when it is clearly stated in the beginning that I am after friendship. I am deeply afraid that if this continues, I will stop trying, and will become bitter and angry towards men in general. And I am also deeply afraid that if I don't try at all, I will become bitter and angry as well.
Any advice as to whether to continue trying to make male friends, and if so, how to go about it?
Becky
So far, the attempts I have made are less than satisfactory. We meet, get along fine, and then poof. Nothing. I am not sure what men are looking for particularly when it is clearly stated in the beginning that I am after friendship. I am deeply afraid that if this continues, I will stop trying, and will become bitter and angry towards men in general. And I am also deeply afraid that if I don't try at all, I will become bitter and angry as well.
Any advice as to whether to continue trying to make male friends, and if so, how to go about it?
Becky
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So my advice, if you want a male friend, he must either be gay or have been raised in a female environment, but I am sure there are exceptions to that rule.