
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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I'm hoping to gain some perspective. If you're a man and your wife asked you to leave (separate or divorce), what is it that you wish she would know? How could she act or what could she do to make your interactions together now (during the separation, pre divorce) better?
I'm looking for situations similar to mine where neither of us cheated on the other, nobody lied, neither of us is seeing someone new.
It just seems that no matter what I do, I'm met with hostility. I know this is a difficult situation, but is it possible for me to diffuse situations when we have to talk?
I'm looking for situations similar to mine where neither of us cheated on the other, nobody lied, neither of us is seeing someone new.
It just seems that no matter what I do, I'm met with hostility. I know this is a difficult situation, but is it possible for me to diffuse situations when we have to talk?
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What you can do to avoid hostility is to try to maintain an atmosphere that is as close to your marriage prior to the request for divorce - don't play games - but treat each other with respect and friendship, to be open an honest with one another as you go through the process, and to realize that if the process becomes a pissing contest you both loose. Finally I would say that in any conversation when you sense things are getting off track - state that back off and mutually agree to resume when you both have cooler heads.
I basically told her, look, not only is this going to be hard on everybody, but it's going to take 6-12 months for the process to run its course. Let's not make this any harder than it has to be. We haven't loved each other for a long time, neither of us really want to be in this relationship, but we've been married for 17 years. Let's try to bear with each other for a few months more - for the sake of our son and our own sanity.
I told her - we can do this one of 2 ways. We can work together, and try to pull off the divorce with the minimum possible cost, disruption, and anguish. Or, I can leave, we'll both get attorneys, fight each other tooth and nail, and make each other miserable while our entire net worth that we've worked so hard for and that should be the foundation for each of our new lives goes instead to the attorneys. You pick.