It's never easy to break which is understandable that you would have guilty feelings. Don't beat yourself up too much. If you tried and you felt this was the right thing to do then those feelings are normal. You are experiencing a loss and there are a multitude of feelings involved with that.

This is normal and healthy. I do not understand what you mean about your guilt feelings. Do you feel guilty that you left and think your STBX is hurt? That was my problem. I can tell you the feelings come and if you don't fight them will go away. Allowing yourself to have these feelings is a part of the healing process. Divorce is a loss in which we do experience grief.

I feel some guilt in leaving him. It's not that he's a bad person, he's just a bad husband. I tried for the both of us in our relationship and now know that you need 2 people actively working at a relationship in order for it to work.
I guess I thought that the pain would go away or at least lessen when I left though. I know it was the right decision to leave, it's just so much harder than I expected. I don't seem to have a very supportive group of friends because everyone just expects me to be ok....maybe that's where the guilt comes in?

my horrorscopes sent to my phone each morning within the few weeks and months Right after my split were so Profound! made it less of a horror.

"You know that all relationships are not meant to go the distance; take waht you learned from this one and be glad" (this after 24 years)

"Why keep rehashing the past; dust yourself off and make a promise to yourself not to make the same mistakes twice!" (that's for sure!)

"The page at the start of each day is blank and you get to write the story; choose to make it one with a happy ending!" (hey, aren't those what you have after a Friendly's meal?) (just hear the song Unwritten about then) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4lFXy5bIiSA

"The struggle you're in with a lover or friend comes from your need to hold on to what you think is yours; let go!" (that was 3 days before I quit cigarettes)(One year, six months, two weeks, four days, 23 hours, 22 minutes and 36 seconds. 17009 cigarettes not smoked, saving $4,677.53. Life saved: 8 weeks, 3 days, 1 hour, 25 minutes.)


"Forgiveness isn't easy to offer someone who's hurt you, but once you find it in your heart, you'll be Free of the Past." (and that helped, and turned out to be true!)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NxTgK29qRCo another good one by Natasha

A divorce is like a death except that your mate still walks around and you have to deal with that loss. Also in a divorce you get the sentiment that if only you had persisted or done something different maybe you would not be where you are today. If you've done everything you could to keep your marriage together without any results, then you should be letting go of that guilt.