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Guess I did ok.

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I've been obsesive about thinking about my ex-wife and her boyfriend and have thought abouth driving by all weekend. I didn't drive by and I'm about to fall asleep. I hope I never give in and drive by there, contact, or see her again. There's no reason since we don't have kids together and she has a boyfriend. The problem is that I still love her but I can't make her love me.
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very smart, very painful words. you get it.
MimiL
MimiL
yeah ....dont give someone your mental energy if they clearly arent giving you theirs..she doesnt deserve it...it will just drive her more away anyways...healthy solid emotionally stable men are attractive...so be that.
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A drive by will only create more questions in your mind, make you upset or even worse - embarrass you.

It will not settle anything in your mind. You know this. But something keeps telling you that you just have to know for closure.

It's a control issue.
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Hey man...it's a hard concept to swallow. I know what you mean but just remember she can do what she wants now and on the other side...so can YOU. Don't let it get to you!
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sometimes loving her consist of letting her go even though it hurts u! its hard, i know, but try focusing other important things that make u happy! best of luck and know we are here for u all the time :)
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congratulations...you've reached a milestone in this aspect of your life...
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I'm sorry for your pain of unrequited love. I know what that feels like. You did the right thing for yourself. Driving by will not change anything and hurt you more. Good for you. Keep it up.
deleted_user
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Good on you, for not following through... I am sorry for your pain, going through the same thing. After all we have gone through, I just have to accept that he does not love me, even though I have feeling for him. One hurful thing I have learnt, is you cannot make them love you back, big pill to swallow...
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Ditto to all comments here. I have recently reached the point that I can not longer subjet my self to the torchur. No calls, no emails, no meeting, no drive bys. As painful as it is, I have come to terms that their can never be us again. Not that it is not incredibly painful, but I can no longer afford to invest my energy there. I need it directed to me for once and what is best for my life and the steps I am going to take to get there.
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Lick your wounds and love you. It takes two to be "in love".

In Love is a devoted affection causing two people to appreciate, delight in, and crave the presence of each other and to please and promote the welfare of each other.

She must not love you anymore.
You have no choice but to love her less, and less. Until its gone.
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You guess you did Ok? You did great! Now go for that date!!!
deleted_user
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awesome job head, sure it was hard, but you did it, you stayed strong. and no we can't make anyone love us, but we can love ourselves. stay strong.
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You'll get there.
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Congrats, headroll. I'm proud of you for NOT driving by!~! It takes a strong person to keep from doing that! "Keep Your Chin Up!~!"
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