Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
It feels like the same day repeating itself over and over again, like the Bill Murray movie "Ground Hog Day."
Having a bad day for pain. The fibromyalgia is directly affected by my stress level, and what with the crap the stbx is constantly throwing in my face, and the fallout that my kids are experiencing, and I am having to do damage control with, I am shot. I am on everything they can give me that is non-narcotic -- and I wouldn't WANT the narcotics anyway -- but it isn't keeping it at bay well enough. It would be MUCH worse without it, but it's not good enuf for what I need. Meanwhile I just continue to put one foot in front of the other, take one breath at a time, try to keep smiling as best I can.
My teenage son had a meltdown last night -- in a puddle of tears -- he's been burning the candle at both ends with school actitivities and homework, and what with the recent news of the divorce, he's feeling all of it. I spent 30-45 minutes last night talking him thru what he was feeling, and how to handle it and what to do practically speaking b/c of the load. He was better by the end, but he's still raw, nonetheless. My stbx came down and butted into the midst of it, but then basically just sat there "observing." "CRITIQUING" is more like it. Later, he DID come up to me and tell me I handled it really well. Like I NEED his support and rah-rahs for that...now. Of all times, NOW.
I signed, notarized and mailed the summons and petition yesterday. My atty should receive it today, then she'll take it to the courthouse and mail a copy to my STBX. He should have it in hand by Friday or Saturday at the latest.
I am just dragging, and the worst of it is before me yet to complete. I had thought, upon making my decision, and before he found out, that this would be much easier, that I would feel free and unencumbered. I knew he would not welcome this, but I had no idea he would fight like the devil to keep hold of something so miserable. What is WRONG with him? I figured he's comfortable with misery, and he hates not having control, so he is clawing his way up the pole to hang onto this.
Having a bad day for pain. The fibromyalgia is directly affected by my stress level, and what with the crap the stbx is constantly throwing in my face, and the fallout that my kids are experiencing, and I am having to do damage control with, I am shot. I am on everything they can give me that is non-narcotic -- and I wouldn't WANT the narcotics anyway -- but it isn't keeping it at bay well enough. It would be MUCH worse without it, but it's not good enuf for what I need. Meanwhile I just continue to put one foot in front of the other, take one breath at a time, try to keep smiling as best I can.
My teenage son had a meltdown last night -- in a puddle of tears -- he's been burning the candle at both ends with school actitivities and homework, and what with the recent news of the divorce, he's feeling all of it. I spent 30-45 minutes last night talking him thru what he was feeling, and how to handle it and what to do practically speaking b/c of the load. He was better by the end, but he's still raw, nonetheless. My stbx came down and butted into the midst of it, but then basically just sat there "observing." "CRITIQUING" is more like it. Later, he DID come up to me and tell me I handled it really well. Like I NEED his support and rah-rahs for that...now. Of all times, NOW.
I signed, notarized and mailed the summons and petition yesterday. My atty should receive it today, then she'll take it to the courthouse and mail a copy to my STBX. He should have it in hand by Friday or Saturday at the latest.
I am just dragging, and the worst of it is before me yet to complete. I had thought, upon making my decision, and before he found out, that this would be much easier, that I would feel free and unencumbered. I knew he would not welcome this, but I had no idea he would fight like the devil to keep hold of something so miserable. What is WRONG with him? I figured he's comfortable with misery, and he hates not having control, so he is clawing his way up the pole to hang onto this.
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
"You don't know what you've got till it's gone!"