Remind me please.....What is a Date?

If any rules apply just be yourself. Have fun and don't expect too much. I think it's great that you are meeting at a neutral place--don't forget to bring money--go dutch--. HAVE A GREAT TIME!!!

I say go for it, you may want a friend to call you mid way through the date just to check up on you, just in case you have to bail out. I went on my first date on valentines day, I felt a little awkward but relaxed as the evening went along. It felt good to get out into the real world again!

I'm pathetic! I used to be good at dating and playing the dating games but I'm not ready to start dating just yet(have to take care of my girls first). But I am TERRIFIED. I have no clue how to date anymore. I feel like a puppy dog when it comes to even thinking about it. I don't hang out in bars (never have) and I don't even know were to find a gal these days. How marketable is a almost 40 year old guy with 2 kids he has full time...yeah the babes will come running..LOL

Go,Go,Go, Lol.. I say you should do it. There is nothing better to take your mind off of him!! Nice distraction..I just cant get out of the house, or I would be trying to find a nice way to get mine out of my system. Like I have said before, he took a piece of me and my heart, but he wont take all of either one!!! Have fun!

I understand about all the feelings...I've got a date on Saturday. Great guy, really sweet, but I'm terrified!!!!! I don't know what to do either. Everyone at work last night was picking on me because I was saying that I didn't know how to flirt...lol I'm with ya sweetie...I know what you are going through.

Ok, thanks for your advice.......now need some more. I did give him my cell phone, and he has yet to call me.........

No offense to any men on here.........does he not get the hint, that it would nice to talk @ least once or twice, before Sat?

Oh well........he has been emailing 3-4 times a day the past two weeks, so that is enough interest in itself.

Alas, I'll go & have fun......good tip on girlfriend calling halfway (I already had that planned) good minds think alike :)

For heaven's sake, just have a good time! As my best friend says, it's just drinks, it's just dinner, etc, it's not a lifetime commitment. Enjoy yourself! Don't forget to let someone close to you know where you are meeting.

please tell me what website? :-)
have a good time dear!

Just go for it! I have been dating a guy that was a neighbor of mine and the ex. 20 yrs ago. We were even friends(just neighbor friends)with he and his wife. I ran into him in church and he started calling me, we finally went out. It was like we were in highschool again, really silly. We have now been dating 7mo. It gets pretty scarey at times, we both put our walls up, just don't get serious with anyone too soon. That has happened with us and we broke things off 3 different times, never lasted longer than a week but it broke my heart.So........be careful! We use to have a crush on each other 20 yrs ago, we have a lot in common and we laugh all the time. He says he will never remarry. That has me a little scared, i am crazy about him and he about me, but.......I just don't think i would be comfortable with just dating him a long time.but...........I still have really bad days because of my divorce and especially when i do not see the boyfriend very often. We both work lots of weekends and nites.Not much time to see each other, The company is great!

I might be out of the norm here... but I'd look to finding some same sex friends to hang out with and fellowship. One thing I've learned is that this is a very lonely time and I do find myself wanting someone to "keep me company" i want to feel "wanted" again, but through friends I have met, people who I fellowship with, my pastors, etc, I've learned that this is the WORST time to get into any kind of relationship. We tend to cling... it's called a band aid relationship, and 90% of the time they won't work in the long run because we haven't gone into it with a full and healed heart. And then... when that ends, we will hurt even more. I wish ya luck!!!

asoldierssister, I think I kind of agree. Depending on the situation, of course, but I think at least in my case I would/need to wait even though I would endjoy the company, etc. until my heart was completely healed or even closer to being healed. That's just me, though, and RMS, if you think you are ready, then go for it and have a great time.