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deleted_user 11/25/2007

Hi everyone,

My husband has a consultation tomorrow with a lawyer regarding our separation/divorce. He's asked me to go with him and I would like to because I was so messed up during my own consultation...I didn't take in much of what I was told and I lost my notes. Remember, this is the same man that withdrew 12,000 from our bank account. I just don't know what to do....I don't think I'm ready for a divorce. I don't know what I'm ready for and even though this is all my fault, I love him so much.

deleted_user 11/25/2007

I really don't think you should go with him. First, this is your husbands lawyer. His job is to provide good solid legal advice, but also to act as an advocate for your husband--not you. Second, a Lawyers office is not the place to try and work out a reconcillation. That's for a counselors office. If you love him this much, is he willing to go see a counselor?

deleted_user 11/25/2007

I suggest that you recontact your lawyer and have them refresh your memory although if you have asked them to act on your behalf they usually send you a summary of the situation and their advice. No you can't go with your husband as has already been pointed out but the fact that he has invited you is interesting although I advise against reading too much into it.

deleted_user 11/25/2007

I guess I should have mentioned that this was a "consultation" visit only. I am now finding that I have questions that I would feel really uncomfortable voicing in front of my H right now...unfortunately, the lawyer that I consulted with is very expensive and as I've just gone on a short term medical leave...the thought of finances is freaking me out...I just don't know what to do. He did tell me he would pay for everything...what the hell does that mean? I am screwed...help.

Thriver 11/25/2007

My atty told me it was unethical for my H's lawyer to propose a meeting with me. Normally there should be no contact there. You are in a fragile state. They could pump you for info or say you said something you didn't.

deleted_user 11/26/2007

I'm confused...your profile says that you don't love your H anymore...that you love someone else. Which is it?
If you love him, maybe a reconciliation is appropriate. See a counselor. If not have another meeting with your lawyer and take notes. I don't see the point of going to see your husband's lawyer's...

deleted_user 11/27/2007

I didn't go with him. Yes, I do still love him, we have a lot of work ahead of us if we are to ever get back together. He came out of the meeting with divorce plans and I told him to get out. That is not what we discussed and I am NOT ready for a divorce. We both need counselling separately and together...then we can see what to do. I think, I hope.

Even though this has all been my fault...it bloody sucks

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