hang in there. Each day will get easier. I love my husband but he doesn't want me. It is very hard but you have to take care of yourself. Be sad if you are sad but make sure you get out. Talk to your friends. Get on DS it helps alot. You will make friends and trust me as someone only in this for a month so far everyone here is great and they help alot. They are honest and caring. Do something nice for yourself, get a manicure, a massage or go out and enjoy the change of seasons. The best revenge for someone not loving you anymore is to show them that you can move on and they didn't break you. That is my thoughts everyday.

I understand completely. The pain at first can be unbearable. I was there and sometimes still have those feelings. I love my husband more than anything but doesn't love me. It hyrts like hell. I have now survived three months.
You are in the hardest stage right now. Let it out. You WILL get through this and it will get better. I know that is hard to believe now. There will be hope for you one day. Reach out to your friends, family. True friends WILL be there for you and they will help you through. You WILL make it and the pain does get better.
I am here for you. Message me if you want to.

my boyfriend does not want me either. it's been 3 months. i'm moving on, in the beginning, i didn't think i wanted to live. but i do. and in time my heart will heal, we all are doing it. you will to. we are all here for you.

I am so sorry, kentrose. Gone says it all. It sounds like he has been leaving for a while, it is just his body that will be gone and you are right to want to get it over with.

Get with people, be with people as much as possible, even if you don't say anything. I know, it hurts like hell.

My husband didn't want me either. Its hard to love someone who doesn't love you back. It hurts like hell, but I promise you it will get easier. I thought I couldn't make it for a couple of months, but now I'm okay. Cry and get it all out. Take it day by day. You will be okay.

You did the right thing by telling him to leave. You need to take care of yourself now and with him around it will only make it worse. I know you are hurting right now, but it will get better. I wanted to die when my marriage fell apart, but i'm stronger now and you will be too. hang in there

I would begin by doing some meditation techniques. I resisted this in the early on stages of this process and wished I hadnt balked at the idea for so long.

I use candles that help enhance the mood of the senses that will enable you to relax and concentrate . I use scriptures to meditate on and seems to help me.

As for your husband which it does seem like you are not wanting to let go of him.
Well truth is you have to let go.
Check out my latests journal entry on letting go, its truly the only way to really win someone back. Whats that old Police song say if you love someone set them free/ No truer words have been spoken towards a spouse who wants to save their marriage.

Also look at this web site its got a lot of information that you might find helpful if you are willing to apply. Truth of the matter is there are things every LBS does that damages chances to restore relationships.

http://www.stopyourdivorce.com/book.htm

paulbear,

Do you know anyone who has tried the book and it has worked? I saw it on line before and just read it. he has hit the nail on the head. The more I try the farther he pulls.

I didn't buy that book but that web site seems to have a ton of info for someone who is still in the clingy stage of being a LBS. There are other web sites out there and forums that i have been on

My D happened today and I have detached myself to the point to where I am getting on with my life. If she and i are ment to be together later on down the line then it will happen, but if not then that's fine as well.

I talked to a guy last night who told e that he and his wife were D for four years! and then they have a better marriage than B4 so who knows what life will bring in the future