Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Why do I want to hug my stbx right now? I mean really. She has given me no reason whatsoever to feel this way. In fact, she has done the opposite. We are separated but living in the same house reasonably peacefully. I've been out of the house for the past 10 days so her parents could visit. It wouldn't be good for us to be there at the same time. I'm here tonight but they are coming back tomorrow and I'll be out for another 3 nights. It just seems like I should be pissed at her but here I am thinking about hugging her. Would it accomplish anything? I doubt it. Even if it was received well by her, would it do anything lasting? Not based on the past 17 years. What gives?
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Everyone, well a lot of us, experience this urge, this need to wrap ourselves around our STBX's and pretend that everything is good. Just try and hold strong. Of course, I'll take that hug :)
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Habit, loneliness, comfort, and loneliness and comfort, and habit. And being human.
solongbye
You are probably just craving the physical contact that you were used to. Give yourself time..maybe the thought of contact with the x will give you the Heebie geebies..like the thought does me.
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Yes lynthegal nailed it.. HABIT.....
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Don't go for that hug unless you are 100% sure it wont hurt yourself in the long run Belzar. One hug is not worth the pain afterwards.
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So...this is normal. I thought something was wrong with me. When we went in to discuss our divorce settlement with the attorneys, there were some moments in the negotiations when we needed to speak to eachother privately, and when we were together alone, it kind of felt good to be in his presence, but at the same time I felt that if we got back together, we'd just be delaying the inevitable.
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110% agree with Lynthegal, Habit, Loneliness, Comfort Zone, Security and more Habit..
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Belzar, I'm sorry that you are going through this. "Keep Your Chin Up!~!" I know it doesn't seem like it's going to get better, but it will. Lyn is right... It's a habit & old habits are hard to break....
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Thanks everyone... I just hate these "moments of weakness"... Just gotta shake it off...
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