Its not you, there is nothing wrong with you so dont think that you are not responsible for someone elses actions. DONT CALL HIM! fight through it I promise it will pass, you have to or you can begin the healing.

i feel bad for what you are going through, but you know i went through a bad break up with i feel like was soul mate, he had been cheating on me for like 5 months before i found out. it is never your fault. its his decision to do what he did. my ex tried to tell me it was my fault, but he just wouldnt be the man i wanted him to be with like working and not drinking his life away so "i" supposedely pushed him away. but you know thats their decision to do it. i know it seems like you wont meet anyone else, but you will. i have been hanging with friends and when you feel bad talk to them, it helps sooo much, especially this site, i couldnt have gotten through it if it wasnt for this site. one lady that really has a lot of good advice is "coffeelady". she is awesome. so tell me how you found out about the girl. also, dont be friends with him, it makes it harder!!

i found out that he was cheating on me because he told me.... he had only kissed her and he admitted to it. He felt really guilty. We decided to go on a break for a couple of weeks, and during those couple of weeks he hung out with her and slept with her.... after that.... he said he "wanted his life back" and moved to be with me.... and then after 4 months... (still communicating with her through email and phone) he said we were through. It hurts. But I'll get through. thank you all for your advice.

You know I don't want to come off cold or any thing like that but your only 21. Look at his as a learning experience and move on with your life. Once a cheater always a cheater any body care to argue against that point? bellsa you will make it through this trust me and you will be much better for it, that said I know it is hard.