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Getting Sea Sick

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I feel as though I am washing back and forth on a wave in a somewhat calm ocean. My stbx keeps pulling my emotions back and forth. I almost get to shore and stand on my feet then he calls again, and I'm back out. How can you distance yourself with children involved? After all he has done and all of the hurt, I could move on, but having to communicate with him still....That's hard!!! He is soooo manipulative, even his psychiatrist said that He had a hard time with his manipulations!! I am starting to get sea sick and no amount of phenergan can help me now!!!
deleted_user
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(((Hugs))) I can relate to that. With children in the mix you Have to continue to have contact. No getting around it.

I was just about to post something similar.

You will find a comfort zone with this, it is just going to take awhile.
patti22
patti22
He can only manipulate you if you believe anything he says. It might be he is speaking about wishes more than reality. Isn't that the definition of insanity...lose of contact with reality? I wish you the best.
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Hug a Pirate !

:-)

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deleted_user
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No doubt a roller coaster ride...unfortunately we are all stuck on it.
sc2kids4me
sc2kids4me
It's time to take back the control. He can only manipulate you if you let him. I realize having children in the mix makes it more difficult, but it's time to set boundries and then enforce them. Tell him you will only discuss the children with him. Firm up schedules and any other issues that keep coming up and then politely but firmly refuse to have any other contact with him. If you can do this he can't touch you anymore. Good luck!
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Get a lifejacket on.

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deleted_user
deleted_user
It really sucks that we have to keep in contact with our X's because of the kids...because I am so emotional right now, I have made arrangements for someone else to do the drop offs and pick ups and I only communicate through email. I have call display and if it is him I get the kids to answer. I only talk to him at the therapists.
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#7

How long have you felt this way ?

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deleted_user
deleted_user
#6 Are you trying to say that I am going to sink? ;) What type of life jacket and where can I purchase one?
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#9

How are you paying ?

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deleted_user
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#10
Cash of course! Why, were you thinking booty Mr. Pirate?
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#11

A fine Friend I would be, if I took advantage of a damsel in distress, would I not be ?

:-)

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