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Am I stupid for wanting to get back together with my wife who cheated on me? She cheated once according to her and she regrets and is guilt filled. At the same time how can I ever trust that it won't happen again. I am so heart broken and dfeel lost without her but I am so afraid of getting my hopes up and then getting crushed. What should I do?
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If you love her, and she loves you, I believe your relationship deserves a chance. But, I would keep my guard up for a while. Appropriate boundaries.
I know its hard but you have to try and move on. Could you ever trust her again?
I don't think I could ever trust my stbx.
If you do get back with her, I would get couples couseling.Hugs to you!
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She cheated a second time. Everyone is different, I would be careful, your emotions are at stake.
someone has emotional issues or physical issues(hate to admit it but some people are vain) or spiritual issues.
The other option... which is my case... they cheat because of how their particular illness works... BiPolar is a common one.
if you get back together without discovering the reason for why she/he left... then you are more than likely going to have to deal with this again...
if you do find it and don't deal with it adequately, its still sorta likely that it will happen again...
if you find it and you fix it, there's still no guarantee..
then there's my case... the only guarantee is that she stays on meds and gets counselling... otherwize she IS guaranteed to do it again..
its hard to trust and to love... but God can give you the strenght to do so if you want.
If she's willing to give it another try and so are you and that's what you want and feel you can, I think it's worth it. I would, however, go into it with the caveat that counseling is a MUST. Once there has been a breach of trust to that degree, it's helpful to have a professional kind of guide us back to a place where hopefully the trust can begin to be built again. And it's not going to happen overnight - it will take time - perhaps a LONG time and you both need to understand that. You can't just forgive overnight and have everything go back to how it was. It will NEVER be how it WAS - but I think with enough effort and love on both parts, a new kind of trust and love may be forged.
Good luck to you.
then you need to work with her to try to get "back into the marriage"
And YES!!! i know how hard it is and i know that it takes time sometimes, if at all, to get there... but if you want your wife to come home to you, you need to give her hope that things will get better...
Its my experience that just knowing that there IS light at the end of the tunnel and that you are committed to being your part of your relationship may very well be enough for her to hold on...
acknowledge how you've hurt her... because by withdrawing from her, you HAVE hurt her and quite badly so...
be open with her and be willing to take rebuke from her if she sences that you're slipping back into your ways... PTSD is not irrecoverable... but it will affect you for a long time... but its how you learn to cope, WITH your spouse that will make the difference for her.
get counselling for both of you... she will carry guilt over her cheating and you will hold some bitterness over it as well, whether you realize it or not...
if you are both dedicated to strenghtening your marriage and are willing to work together, sacrificially for one another... you WILL succeed...
trust the Lord to restore what you cannot... He is the Great Physician and he wants your marraige to be restored to fullness.
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