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games or just mean

MimiL
MimiL
I dated a guy in June and each time we date and it starts feeling real he dissappears but I felt such a connection that try again when he resurfaces (round 3)....and yup he did again...of course ....as soon as we really start connecting he leaves but then he resurfaces and we date again and are closer I thought this time it would stick..not ....but to say you will call and just not ..ok then text and say you will call and again not...and then I broke my no call...and I called and he didnt even answer twice after I said Ill assume you are seeing someone else and I will leave it like that ...he says Ive been busy I will call this weekend...yup no call....all sweet on thanksgiving and I thought we were getting so much closer and more comfortable ....definately so much more comfortable with each other...and then ...this. I dont get it
GeocacherNY
GeocacherNY
scaredy cat?
deleted_user
deleted_user
He's probably married..seems to be going around these days.
deleted_user
deleted_user
your such a beautiful woman you deserve more than that. perhaps it's time to tell him goodbye. well, good luck whatever you decide. always will be here for you.
MimiL
MimiL
not married..been to his place he is close friends with my BFs husband
deleted_user
deleted_user
What does your BF think of him?
MimiL
MimiL
when he met me he called the guy who gave him my number to thank him.......
MimiL
MimiL
they were shocked when after the first round...he brought me out to dinner with the parents and tehn the family party the next day...I felt ignored and was in shock..we said it was too fast so we agreed to go slow....he didnt call me for 2 months...they are totally shocked....the husband now thinks he is gay....not really but thats all he can come up with
GeocacherNY
GeocacherNY
ok, gay, or scaredy cat.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Do you know if he is dating other people?
MimiL
MimiL
even if you are afraid if its the thing wouldnt you be more afraid of losing the chance...I dont feel the thing too often....maybe he is jsut a standard playboy..but even that who wants that for a life....he talks about if "we were together together and got married" I mean what is the point
MimiL
MimiL
he said at first he was casually dating.....back then..he seemed to want to take it further this time..I dont say anything..afraid he will get scared ..so i keep it light
deleted_user
deleted_user
Maybe he is using you for one thing.
MimiL
MimiL
I feel like he is dating others and wants to keep me hanging or something...Im done...but I hate when you see potential...I mean we laugh so much when we are together...I feel like how can he just not want this...maybe he has that with everyone...he is very attractive
MimiL
MimiL
he can get that anywhere,
deleted_user
deleted_user
IMHO: The guy sounds like he is not in the same place as you are, and is not being conciderate. Talk with him and tell him how you feel and if he cares, you guys will be able to work it out. Maybe he has had some bad relationships? As Geocacher said maybe he is being a "scaredy cat". But ultimately I say don't put your heart into the relationship if he's not going to respect you no matter his "reasons"; After all the only reasons you can come up with for not respecting someone, are not good foundations for a relationship.

You deserve to have someone, even early in a relationship, that conciders your feelings. Not calling when you promise to might happen once in a while, but it sounds like this guys MO, if thats the case he is not really caring how you feel.

Do whats best for YOU in the long run.
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