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furious right now!

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I just found out that my ex let my 19 year old son drink shots of vodka on the ride to a concert last night. my ex was driving and because my son didn't think they would let him take it in with him to the concert he started drinking on the ride there. then, on top of that when they were sitting in traffic some girls in a car drove up beside them and my ex traded beer for shots of vodka with them! And....my 17 and 13 son's were in the back seat! what kind of example is this to his sons? The ex doesn't even drink and made a big deal about me ever even having one drink but this he thinks is fine? What was he thinking?
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Oh boy, this is not good! What will he allow next? Underage contribution of alcohol, and two younger boys in the back seat is a horrible example. Document and call your atty. I don't want the boys to hate you because they may blame you for being the bad guy here, but you do have to put your foot down on this type of behavior!
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Apparently, he wasn't thinking. This is very juvenile behavior and he was not being a responsible parent or adult. He seemingly wants to play the role of "stupid redneck friend".
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Couple different levels here. First, having a beer with dad in a controlled environment(basement, deck, etc) is no big deal.

Shots? Not a real good idea anywhere.

Drinking in an automobile? Stoooo-pid.

You're correct to be concerned with this. Addressing it is probably gonna make you the bad guy short term, but that's what responsible parenting is all about.
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Not a good role model. I would be pissed too.
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That is interesting and I've already taken it into account in my divorce.

In my divorce decree it states that neither my wife or I or anybody else is allowed to give my daughter ANY alcohol until she reaches legal age.

Boy, my wife was pissed off at that clause and took it as an insult. And there wasn't a valid complaint she could make about it. I saw the effects she had on my step-daughter by allowing her to drink occasionally at home. I want better role models.
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OH NO HE DID NOT... Daddy is a dirty dog, shots with his son.
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