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FURIOUS!!!!..

deleted_user
deleted_user
Stbx brung kids to my office as i get them this weekend.This was what we worked out as she had to work at 5:00PM!

I noticed my 10 yr old daughter acting funny.Then a few minutes ago..she let me know that my STBX told her to SNOOP around my office and also to notate evrything that happens.IE.If i get onto them or dicipline them..she is to journal it and give it to her mom.Along with anything she "Finds"!

She started crying and told me she didn't think it was right to snoop and journal our weekend but her mom is making her!
I am beside myself...

_Savery1
deleted_user
deleted_user
What is she looking for?
chowgirl
chowgirl
Have a great weekend with her and help her write about what a wonderful time she had.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I have a 10 year old daughter, why would some do this to their child. This is so new and strange to them I am trying to keep my daughter happy and feeling loved,
deleted_user
deleted_user
OMG - so wrong of you STBX on SO many levels. God, I bet you want to pull your hair out.
Try to take the higher ground and just make it a great weekend and tell your poor girl her only job this weekend is to have the best time with her wonderful daddy! BIG HUG TO YOU
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree with Chowgirl. While this isn't fair, you can use it against her! Help your daughter write her journal entry!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
that's terrible. Do you know what she is looking for? I feel for your daughter.
deleted_user
deleted_user
That's disgusting for her to use your child that way.
deleted_user
deleted_user
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Rise above the 'games', just love your kids.

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deleted_user
deleted_user
Thats plain child abuse. You need to report, document her actions.

What she is doing is just sick.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I have no idea. The stbx accuses me of screwing around almost everytime we talk so i am sure that has something to do with it!

Evidence of another woman or just anything she can "use" to help with her case against me.Just blows my mind..I will take the high road! :)Have a great time with them and help her write the "journal" :)
deleted_user
deleted_user
Please visit this website and send it to her:

http://www.uptoparents.org

It really helped me. I was getting emotional and picking fights with my stbx in front of my daughter. This site helped me to open my eyes to what I was doing to her. I hope your stbx reads it and takes it seriously. What she is doing is very harmful.
deleted_user
deleted_user
This is the start of many similar incidents. I will give you my standard response to my kids when my control freak ex husband wanted the kids to do his dirty work: This is grown up stuff and you don't need to worry about it. If daddy asks you about it again, tell him it's too grown up for you and he should talk to mommy about it. However, I do like the idea of helping her make up some good documentation ;-)
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm so sorry that your daughter was put in that position. It is just reprehensible that a mother would do that to her children!! Do your children have representatives in the court system? If so, this should be reported. At the very least, tell your lawyer. In the meantime, I agree with others here, help her write the most wonderful journal entry.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree with #2. Write how much fun you are having do all those things we told you about earlier...then later, when the kids aren't around, tell her that you don't appreciate what she did, and you expect that it won't happen again.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I would contact whatever is the Department of Children in Families in your state they have a 24 hour number. That to me is a form of mental child abuse. Children should never be used as pawns.
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