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FUN GUY, NOT FUNGI

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I have to tell you, I'm a fun girl and very spontaneous (like surprise mini vacations and day trips). Why is it that the Xs in my life are always so boring? They seem to be full of life at first, but then their personality grinds down to the every day essentials; lifeless, more or less.

To me, the guy feels like FUNGI, growing not in personality, but like a wart on my hip. Or I feel like their mommy. I've been raising kids for 27 years and need ME time; fun time, not a fungus growing and weighing me down. I'm just wondering if any of you can relate. I'd rather spend a day with my girlfriend at the beach, drinking wine, or Corona Lights, than be totally bored by a FUNGI!
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Heck yeah I can relate!!! In marriage #2 I started worrying if I was the one dragging them down. Got over that one real fast with the help of friends. As part of my sanity upkeep during that marriage I chose to separate myself emotionally from the EX. I redefined who I was and started living again. That was so crucial to my survival once I did get divorced. I still have my moments but at least I can be happy with who I am instead of being and empty shell after a divorce.
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I know that misery loves company. I'm trying to live, not be downtrodden with the SO. At first, all is fun, but after I'm in, well, it changes. Life is too damn short to wallow in self-pity and that's one party invitation I'll refuse in the future!
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Good for you Cerridwen. Keep up the positive attitude!!
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Just wanted to say: "Top of the morning to you guys! and have a great day!"
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I can so relate.

I think guys are having fun while they're chasing you but after they catch you ..well......they aren't having fun anymore...so then they aren't fun to be with.

Just my opinion.
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Pats, I'm the same age you are, and I'm ready for my 3rd teenager-hood. I had one, had another, now I'm ready to cut loose again and start living. I don't mind acting like a kid at times. It helps me to stay young. Besides, being a gemini, I'm not accountable for being bi-personality. Ha, ha!
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Cerridwen, wow your 3rd childhood!! Good on you. I have never acted my age. Refuse to. I try to be happy go lucky. Fools a lot of people too. Many never even knew that I was going through the hell that I was.
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Absolutely! Was thinking of resorting to only looking at men significantly younger as they dont seem half dead yet. Well, I have to go.. going to surprise my daughter with a night of camping on the beach! I wish there was a guy that could keep up.
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Good for you Pats. I go out to have fun, wouldn't want to disappoint anyone, especially myself.
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I would rather be having fun by myself and friends than be miserable with a man.
I just havent been lucky enough yet to find that special guy that I can have fun with. I am the eternal optimist.. he is out there somewhere.. we just havent crossed paths yet.
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If you know where to find these fun guys please let me know. My stbx was boring as hell. I like to go out and have fun but can be responsible also.
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Being responsible is a must.
I think some people are just luckier than others. Well at least it appears that way.
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:)
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there is a spanish idiom that translated goes "better lonely that in bad company" so i think is ok to wait for the right person that fits our personality.
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good morning Kinoka. I haven't found the guy yet either. I can be responsible also, but every so often, it's fun to just throw caution to the wind and have fun. (sounds like me on the back of a Harley)
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