Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I know it's still been less than a week, but I find myself afraid to make decisions about "Us" stuff, even though I can do it on "me" stuff. For instance: He has REALLY wealthy parents and is an only child. They will hire top lawyers for him if he wants. I don't have any money to hire a lawyer, so I am afraid of pissing him off by asking about money, the car, all that stuff.
I have to honestly say, I don't think he knows that legally half of it is mine. He thinks the car and the computer are "his". I am trying to think of myself and what is best for me, but I am very afraid to make a move about splitting stuff up because he is acting so bizarre and unlike anything I know about him.
Another example: when he left, he said he wanted to make sure I was financially okay. I removed $500 from our bank account (far from emptying it out) because, come on, the guy just left me, how can I trust there will be any money tomorrow? In our one conversation, he got FURIOUS that I took out that money. Also, my work is sending me my last paycheck. I'm afraid to deposit it because he might take it, but aren't I still responsible for half the rent, bills, etc. His grasp on the reality of the situation seems really tenuous, and I have no idea what to do. Any suggestions or hugs, please?
I have to honestly say, I don't think he knows that legally half of it is mine. He thinks the car and the computer are "his". I am trying to think of myself and what is best for me, but I am very afraid to make a move about splitting stuff up because he is acting so bizarre and unlike anything I know about him.
Another example: when he left, he said he wanted to make sure I was financially okay. I removed $500 from our bank account (far from emptying it out) because, come on, the guy just left me, how can I trust there will be any money tomorrow? In our one conversation, he got FURIOUS that I took out that money. Also, my work is sending me my last paycheck. I'm afraid to deposit it because he might take it, but aren't I still responsible for half the rent, bills, etc. His grasp on the reality of the situation seems really tenuous, and I have no idea what to do. Any suggestions or hugs, please?
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
I can see your dilema! I would be afraid also! Good luck!
He probably saw you taking out that money a slap at him for whatever is going on cus he doesnt understand the ramifications or what really can go down in divorces
I am sure there are free legal experts in your area you can contact at least for a consultation. Check online for the laws of your state in relation to divorces as well. Educate yourself, not to screw him, but to not be screwed when the time comes and the parents get him a lawyer.
You might just find you and he can work it out as well.
Get your info, then approach him about the items there. This way, you wont be shocked or left standing there not really knowing your rights
Try to stay calm and you will be fine.