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front of a judge

deleted_user
deleted_user
i am just wondering how many of you had to go to this mediation thing and then if that didnt go well, then in front of a judge. somehow i dont think stbx and i are coming to any agreements anytime soon. and it will go b4 a judge and when it does i may have the last laugh. he thinks he can control me into agreeing with him. he want physical custody of the boys. if it goes b4 a judge he will be screwed cause im sure the judge will favor townarecd me since im primary caregiver and have been since day they were born what do you think? Have you been b4 judge? How did it go?
hockeymom5592
hockeymom5592
Annmd, I'm going in front of the judge tomorrow for temporary orders because x refused to work with me to achieve what the GAL wanted. I'm expecting it to go my way, becuase I have the GAL on my side. but I would imagine it will depend on where you live, the laws in your state. I hve heard that universally, custody tends to favor the mother. Good luck.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I used to be a bailiff. I have seen many cases come through the courts. I have not been to court yet and we have no children in the home.
Every case as well as every judge is different. I will say that one of the deciding factors will be who has been the primary caretaker of the children and if that primary caregiver is taking good care of the kids.
deleted_user
deleted_user
mediation did not work for us - went b4 judge who told STBX if he doesn't come to an agreement he will do it for him. currently the have mutual custody of the boys, week on week off. It is very hard on me when it is his week as the OW is also there. My boys are the only family I have in this country and I miss them terribly when they are gone. Normally the mother would get the kids but so many judges are leaning towards joint custody especially if there is no abuse, etc. good luck!!
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