So, about a month ago, my boyfriend of 6 years and I broke up. He was the first to initiate the conversation, but once he had spoken, I agreed. We weren't happy anymore. We were going in different directions. We still did love each other very much. But, then he said something that took me off guard. He said that he didn't want me out of his life and that he still wanted to be friends. He wants us to talk to each other whenever we need to or whenever we want to. So, I'm shaken up about the break-up. Obviously. I had no idea he was thinking of breaking-up with me, because neither of us wanted it. We talked about that a few days ago. Neither of us wanted to break-up, but it was something that needed to be done. Anyway, we hung out once, talked on the phone like twice, and have texted/im'd/emailed every couple of days since the break-up. I definitely want to be friends with him. He definitely wants to be friends with me. And we still love each other very much. However, it's like...sometimes when we talk, I get emotional. I miss the old us. I miss not being able to tell him I love him, and all that. I know this is normal, but it gets overwhelming sometimes. And the other day while I was talking to him, I told him that I knew I had to let go, and he said that I didn't need to let go it was just a different type of relationship. Both of us are in a lot of pain. We both want the other in our life. And...yeah. We want to be friends, but are we rushing it? Should I take time to just cool down and not tell him? Or should I say..hey I need a couple of weeks to breathe? He believes that you need that friendship from the beginning otherwise you'll lose it. So, any advice will help. Thanks!
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