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Friends before lovers

deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm not sure what to call it any more what I have with my friend of 10yrs/ boyfriend we were together but now we live apart because he said he wasn't ready he has alot on his plate right now DWI classes and a final Divorce papers that he has to fight because his ex is trying to take him for everything we agreed to try a relationship the right way where he comes and takes me out on dates. I'm just feeling sooo sad because everything was going good until the Big D papers came. He is also friends with my sister and he told her all before this happened that he was going to ask me to marry him on Christmas. I wish my sister would have never told my dad because my dad told me and it makes me feel even worse
deleted_user
deleted_user
give it some time, the divorce papers probably just reminded him of things he probably put aside. don't rush things, go out on the dates and have a good time, live in today and don't worry about tomorrow. looks like you have someone in your life that loves you and you love him. good luck.
Southernmedic
Southernmedic
I know it's hard but try to see where he is coming from. Divorce papers bring back strong emotions and fear. Time is what is needed and try not to puch, just be supportive.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree with everyone, be his friend, be patient and hey.. Valentines day is right around the corner
deleted_user
deleted_user
Honestly let me get this straight.You were living together but he's not divorced yet.He was arrested for DWI.He is not living with you now b/c of the impending divorce and DWI classes.You've been friends for years and began a romantic relationship with a man who is obviously so self-destructive and doesn't really know what he wants but he's going to propose to you on Christmas Day.Oh and you're dating the right way by going out on dates where he picks you up and takes you out while he's waiting for the divorce to end so the ex can't bleed him dry.

Sorry but he doesn't sound like a winner to me.
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