Hi. I am new to this, but am open to trying anything to save my sanity. I am 50 years old, have 4 grown wonderful children and have been married for 28 years. My husband decided 4 months ago that our marriage therapy was not working for him and he moved out. He has had no communication with me since, other than to request, by e-mail, papers needed for taxes, etc. I remain in our home and he does contribute financially to pay the mortgage. He is angry, mean and basically cut off from the family. He speaks with our kids, but only superficially and refuses to discuss this situation. I am devastated and barely functioning. If not for work, I would go insane. My husband is a good guy. That is why this makes no sense. He is kind, generous to a fault and has always valued family above all else. I believe he is having some sort of crisis, but when he left he was very specific about this being all my fault. He accepted no responsibility at all. We had been seeing a therapist and I believed we were doing great. Many times I asked him how we were doing and he would respond it had never been better. Alot of people have suggested to me that maybe he is having an affair. I know how naive it sounds to say he would be the last person to do that, but he would. I go day to day hoping he will miss me, miss us, miss our family we built, but many people are quick to tell me to not waste time and move on. This is not something I can easily do. I committed myself to him for life and feel that if he is indeed hurting and confused, shouldn't I of all people stand by him. I would hope if it was the other way around that he would do the same. I don't know. I sometimes feel as if I'm losing my mind. I am starting to feel invisible in my surroundings. Thought maybe this forum would be able to give me some things to think about or consider. I thank you all for your time.
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