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PLEASE READ ALL BEFORE YOU DECIDE IF YOU ARE RAELLY MY FRIEND.
OK that's it for me.I really need to put my two cents in here and hope that you will read my entire response before commenting.
examples of Big Beepers responses (exact examples although not all of them)
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Even your Avatar and Username abhor me !
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Your an asshole S1!
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Get the Child Abuser out of here !
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Shame on you all !!
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What act are you on with ?
Make a valid comment or butt out.
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You think he (it) will get educated here ?
It requires professional help.
First step is notify the relevant authorities.
Which someone else has undertaken.
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I don't want a 4 y.o. hit with a belt again... do you ?
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Hey.
Read the topic... I did not ring anyone !
I was asked to do something and I complied with another responsible person's request.
I don't care what you think happened/is happening here as you obviously are not taking in what has taken place.
Now please stop bothering me.
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I guess child abuse is not a major issue in the US
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."Let it go, leave us be, and Godpseed"
Leave you to child abuse ?
Get over yourself !
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I don't need defending, this 4 y.o. child is the one who needs defending !
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Get over yourselves and stop attemting to make me the villain !
I can discuss anything, but I draw the line at this mob attitude that is prevalent here.
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Well, let me see...
We ain't related.
Will that do ?
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Clear your desk and piss off !
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Now here's my opinion.This man has a lot to say about physical abuse but is prolific in verbal abuse!
It was perfectly fine when everyone else was in agrreeance with his opinions but when someone else voiced the opinion that Savery1 was not EVIL INCARNATE and actually defended him against the profane and verbal abuse it was all of a sudden turned into a mob rule in which BigBeeper himself was villified.PLEASE!
Also please excuse the HE double hockey sticks out of me for saying that simply because someone I like or don't like agrees or disagrees with someone I do or don't that I should or should not side up with them.
I like you or I don't.I will not ask someone to base their opinion of you on mine.
I agree with you or I don't.I will not ask you to agree with me because you have to in order to stay my friend!
If I lose any friends in the commition of stating this,my opinion and basic belief system,then you were never really my friend in the first place!!!!!
A FRIEND is someone that loves,respects,and helps you EVEN when you make an error and EVEN when they disagree with you.
NO I won't ask someone to leave DS or refer to them as an IT!Savery1 has a name it is not asshole,child abuser,or IT!
I personally don't like BigBeeper but I don't care if you do.I will just sit here happy as a snug bug in a rug knowing that others love and respect him EVEN though he's human and makes errors and EVEN though I disagree with him and his abusive demeanor.
OK that's it for me.I really need to put my two cents in here and hope that you will read my entire response before commenting.
examples of Big Beepers responses (exact examples although not all of them)
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Even your Avatar and Username abhor me !
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Your an asshole S1!
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Get the Child Abuser out of here !
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Shame on you all !!
-----
What act are you on with ?
Make a valid comment or butt out.
-----
You think he (it) will get educated here ?
It requires professional help.
First step is notify the relevant authorities.
Which someone else has undertaken.
-----
I don't want a 4 y.o. hit with a belt again... do you ?
-----
Hey.
Read the topic... I did not ring anyone !
I was asked to do something and I complied with another responsible person's request.
I don't care what you think happened/is happening here as you obviously are not taking in what has taken place.
Now please stop bothering me.
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I guess child abuse is not a major issue in the US
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."Let it go, leave us be, and Godpseed"
Leave you to child abuse ?
Get over yourself !
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I don't need defending, this 4 y.o. child is the one who needs defending !
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Get over yourselves and stop attemting to make me the villain !
I can discuss anything, but I draw the line at this mob attitude that is prevalent here.
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Well, let me see...
We ain't related.
Will that do ?
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Clear your desk and piss off !
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Now here's my opinion.This man has a lot to say about physical abuse but is prolific in verbal abuse!
It was perfectly fine when everyone else was in agrreeance with his opinions but when someone else voiced the opinion that Savery1 was not EVIL INCARNATE and actually defended him against the profane and verbal abuse it was all of a sudden turned into a mob rule in which BigBeeper himself was villified.PLEASE!
Also please excuse the HE double hockey sticks out of me for saying that simply because someone I like or don't like agrees or disagrees with someone I do or don't that I should or should not side up with them.
I like you or I don't.I will not ask someone to base their opinion of you on mine.
I agree with you or I don't.I will not ask you to agree with me because you have to in order to stay my friend!
If I lose any friends in the commition of stating this,my opinion and basic belief system,then you were never really my friend in the first place!!!!!
A FRIEND is someone that loves,respects,and helps you EVEN when you make an error and EVEN when they disagree with you.
NO I won't ask someone to leave DS or refer to them as an IT!Savery1 has a name it is not asshole,child abuser,or IT!
I personally don't like BigBeeper but I don't care if you do.I will just sit here happy as a snug bug in a rug knowing that others love and respect him EVEN though he's human and makes errors and EVEN though I disagree with him and his abusive demeanor.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
she really knows how to use them.
Beepers are ppl too....lol.
http://www.googobits.com/articles/p0-2446-inside-the-mind-of-an-abuser-what-you-need-to-know.html
Domination
Abusers are extremely dominating to the point that they want to control everything...If they dont get their way, they act like spoiled children. On top of that, they use threats to get what they want. If you allow your abuser to dominate you, you will lose your self respect.
Verbal Assault
The abuser tends to verbally assault their victim by calling names, degrading, screaming, threatening, criticizing, berating and humiliating. They will center their victim out in front of family and friends by taking small personality flaws and embellishing them to the extreme. They make snide remarks and use sarcasm to erode the victims sense of self-worth and self confidence. Making the victim look bad in front of others is an attempt to isolate the victim and keep them at their mercy. Then, the abuse worsens.
Who is that directed at...I am soooo lost here!
You did a great job,, (IMO)
I also think that if I say anything on any of these posts that does not meet with the standards that seem to be set with the general population here that I will not he belittled and trashed the way Savery1 was trashed yest. I also am not overly-fond of BigBeeper, I find him a bit crass, judgemental and to be quiet honest annoying, but like you said, he is a person and has as much right to be on here as any of the rest of us do!
Once again legz.. great job and thanks!
I respect your opinion and your right to voice it. I also noted your abscence from the thread I deemed childish and juvenile. Until you posted this very thread there.
That is why you are and have
been my friend and hopefully will continue to be so. You don't go there...you don't look for the peanut gallery to cheer you on, normally.
You don't have to like BigBeeper. No one has to like him. You don't have to agree with him. No one has to agree with him 100% I often don't myself.
But,I don't understand your refererences to siding up with someone. When I disagree with someone I say so. When I support someone who I feel is being unjustly "stoned" I say so too. You must know that from the previous threads from South's Ex and from the attack on Cherub in reference to her opinion on organized religion and when I defended Gia to that ignorant man who insulted her. None of these individuals were my close friends and I was not 'Siding-up' with them out of just stickin' up for a friend. I was responding to what I believed was wrong. And, as long as I am on DS I will continue to do just that. It has to do with standing up to group think and mob mentality not 'siding-up'.
I appologize for publicly hurting BigBeeper by stating his imperfections as a human.
I too,like all of us,imperfect.
Please (everyone not just one individual) take the lessons learned from this post and move on with a greater knowledge of how to disagree without throwing names.How to accept human frailty without losing sight of our true convictions.
I too may have been abusive here by saying something publicl rather than helping someone grow without chastising him in what could become a lynch mob of righteousness.
Be BigBeeper's friend because he needs us EVEN when he's made an error and ESPECIALLY because I was cruel.
I appologize for my creulty but not my beliefs.