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the stbx approached me today about the letter he got from my attorney referring to a motion for child support, alimony and household contributions. he says he cannot leave the home, his attorney told him not to cause he cant afford two places and i asked why dont he go to his moms . he said he'd have to pay her rent as well and can not afford it. anyway, he wants me to know he is going to propose that we each contribute a percentage of our pay toward everything. i am already doing that. why do i need to do a percentage of anything. f him. i give the boys money for lunches, i pay for their prescriptions, i pay for gas for my car , i pay for my car payment , i also contribute to the groceries. last time i shopped i spent 100 dollars on groceries. what more does he want.
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I think they will combine both incomes...then divide it in half...then determine cost of raising children from a book...and you both assume fair share. If he makes more he will pay more. If you make more you will pay more. Thats what I think.

Expecting him to go live for free off his mom wont float in court. The court will provide a way for your kids, and what is left over is 50/50 just about.
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Depends on your state. You definitely need a court order with a temporary custody agreement. This is the way it was done for me and my x...and I was awarded temporary possession of the house. Our incomes were added together and a percentage was determined...he had 68% of our income to my 32%. He then had to pay 68% of any joint bill (including house payment). In my state CS is figured on a parental ratio as well. The amount of CS for two children is determined based on our combined incomes...again according to the income ratio, CS was determined. Since I was awarded custody, he had to pay his portion to me and use this to pay for things for the kids (including their portion of the household bills).
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