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FIL passed away

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On thanksgiving my stbx's step dad passed away. He found out that he had cancer the first of september. STBX called me on thanksgiving morning and told me they called for all the family to go up to the hospital. I asked how his mother was doing and before I could say that I was sorry he said well I just wanted to tell you and hung up. My daughter called me last night and I told stbx if he needed to talk I was here and he said I don't need to talk and hung up.
How can he be so cold right now. Everyone tells me he needs to know that I am here,but why? He doesn't care.
Is it because he has the whore to run to now? She doesn't have the memories like we have together with my FIL, so why does he want to talk to her?
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don't question these things, you'll drive yourself crazy with no answer. i'm sorry for your loss. and you have your memories of your FIL. stay strong.
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It is hard to be shut out, and yes he is probably with the other women for comfort. I agree you have a lot of memories to share...perhaps you can offer condolencs to other members of the family and by-pass him...

sorry for your loss sorry you are getting cut out of the greiving and support process...


KIM
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kinda going through the same except my fil has just been ill. would love to sit and watch a ball game with him again. he,s more like my dad than my dad. but haven,t seen him in almost 2 yrs bummer
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Just give him time, if he WANTS to talk to you, he will in his own time. Death is different for all of us and how we respond to it. You gave him the option(more than what most would do)and leave it at that.
Sorry for your loss.
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He's aware that you are available. Thats all you can do. Maybe send flowers to family.
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