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Feeling so alone

deleted_user
deleted_user
Not only did I lose my stbx, but I also lost my best friend. The loneliness is indescribable. I miss my friend, the person I told everything to. My God, does it ever hurt.
deleted_user
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Hang in there, it hurts, I know - but it will also heal.
I have always said and will stick by it, if someone doesn't want me, I cant make them and I won't - after 25 years together I never dreamed it would be my stbx but it is and it does get easier every day - some days are easier than others
tossedaside
tossedaside
I too feel as if Iv'e lost my best friend and that makes the hurt even worse, and although I'm not good at taking advice, I have been told time and time again take control of you and what you want cause you just can't control the other person Keep your chin up
deleted_user
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It does hurt so bad. And I have always been a loner, so not only did I lose my best friend, I lost my only friend. I am going to get out, see some people, make new friends. But the pain right now is undescribable. I hope you are doing better.
deleted_user
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I completely understand. I am sorry. I agree w the others. Take care of you now, get out, get a new hobby, meet new people. It hurts like hell right now but it will get better.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Went through the same horrific pain this past summer. I can't say anything but you just have to endure it and go through it, but it will eventually pass and things will look up. We can't stay in this misery forever! As humans, but nature, we were made to be survivors!
deleted_user
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I know how it hurts, but better people are on their way into your life. Be watching for them and let them in.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I so understand my cheating STBX was my best friend and I have no parents or siblings......sigh its so lonely ((((hugs)))
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hang in there. I just had a date this afternoon and all I could think about was it wasn't my Colly. It has to get better though. Others have made it and so can we.
deleted_user
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I agree, but I had a date this afternoon and it was just so sad. A very nice girl, but I just missed my wife so much the whole time. It ain't easy.
deleted_user
deleted_user
i felt that way to, like i lost my best friend, and he turned away when i needed him the most, emtionally. through all this time, sometimes i have cried because i won't have contact and there is so much going on in my life, i always shared everything with him. i have to agree with 1step, i couldn't make him stay and now really, (no anger or sarcasm) why would i want to.
deleted_user
deleted_user
My STBX was never my best friend but It really hurts that now he is my worse enemy. He is a person who always has to win he has to either controll something or destroy it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I do miss my stepkids who my husband has made sure have turned against me. I love them so much. It breaks my heart that I have lost them.
chowgirl
chowgirl
My stbx was my best friend until about 5 years ago. I've spent those 5 years trying to bring him back from the chemical abyss, but I finally get that I can't do that. I thought I was already lonely, but it didn't compare to how I feel now that he's gone. The death of hope is a lot tougher than anything I've been through so far.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I know what you mean. My X was my best friend as well. I told her everything. She was the reason I went to work everyday, the reason I came home everyday. She made my life happy again at a time when I was really down! She lifted me up from despair and lonliness only to drop me back down again.
deleted_user
deleted_user
She wasn't my best friend but she was my life. Who I did everything I did for. My reason. My purpose.
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