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feeling sad today

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This whole Thanksgiving break i've been doing pretty good. I've been strong around my family, we haven't talked about the seperation much, not much to say anymore. But today since the festivites are over and tomorrow I have to make a 5 hour trip back to my house I'm feeling sad. My family is wonderful and it's been nice visiting but they cannot replace the missing part of my life. I thought I was doing ok but now that i'm faced with going back and being truly alone again I'm not doing so good. I miss him so much and all the fun we had together. I miss my best friend, my companion. I miss the person that I knew, the person that loved me. Just a sad day.
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I'm sorry that you are so sad. I have found that when I drive,and of course I do constant thinking during that time...I turn on Christian music...that helps me so much. HUGS to you. Drive carefully!
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i know the feeling. i did pretty well all thanksgiving day and then it hit me, but we have to expect the different feelings, but we will get through them, hang in there. be safe, drive carefully.
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I know how you are feeling. This was the first holiday without him and my daughter. My daughter wasn't even with family she was around people that she doesn't really know so it was very hard to enjoy Thanksgiving. Thankgivings is suppose to be a day to show what you are thankful for and that wasn't me. I am not thankful for not having my daughter with me. I pray things will get better for us both. Good luck and be careful
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I too am sorry you are sad. I remember this part of the journey cause it was not to long ago. One thing I learned in a DivorceCare program I attended, 'alternate reality", meaning that is how it was at one time but is not like that now.
when I go into those sad times I try to remember that saying. These holidays are going to be rough for all of us we will just have to stick together
BIG HUG
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Sorry you are feeling so bad. I totally understand, I am at my folks house now only to return to an empty house full of memories. I guess it is really up to us to find the strength to get better. Just remember despite all the pain there are still many things to be thankful for. Drive safely and be good to yourself.
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I don't know what to say that will make you feel less sad, so just...((((((HUG)))))
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"I miss the person that I knew, the person that loved me."

I used to say this a lot when my STBX and I first separated... but when you look at him now, he isn't the same person... He ISN'T the person that loves you anymore... I know that is a really hard pill to swallow but it does get easier...
LisaACOA
LisaACOA
My thoughts and prayers are with you. I understand how you feel. I am going through it too. If you need to talk, I am here for you.

Your friend,

Lisa xx
abusehurts
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Yes, I had that same lonely feeling as I was driving home from Thanksgiving (instead of spending it at home with him.) I felt I wanted someone to come home to, someone who was my home. But then I realized he was not really that for me anyway.
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We don't celebrate Thanksgiving in England, but I am dreading my first Christmas wihout my ex, I am going home to spend it with my family who are great. But oh, how I will miss him, I know how you are feeling.
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It is definitely a bittersweet feeling when you remember what happened in the past. Use this holiday as a prelude to Christmas and it will help to make you stronger, whether you believe it or not. The first holiday is the worst. I miss all those things too, but I attempt to not dwell on something that I have no control over. I am not always successful, but I am trying. Your new traditions started this holiday. We're here for you.
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I am so sorry for your pain.
I never was much into x-mas but my H was and the season being in full swing everything reminds me of him ugh.
I share your sadness. We will all help each other through.
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