My lawyer told me a month ago that I need to be actively persuing a job. At the time I looked for what was out there. There was two jobs that I was qualified for but they were over an hour away in another city. I have 2 special needs kids in school here. I also need to update 2 certifications. I've been working on that. Then my son's health deteriorated he lost greater than 10% of his weight and has been fighing a rash that suggested he was immunocompromised. (my son is a high functioning autistic with food allergies). We had an upper GI found a stricture (dr said its tumor vs inflammation). I also take my son to 12 therapy appointments in a month. Now we have to do more doctors appointments to rule out cancer.

I haven't been looking for the job. I have no energy left. I've been running the kids to doctors, school and therapy appointments. Then I did manage attend a class to get one of my certifications.

I'm terrified I can't do enough to satisfy the courts. My lawyer said I must go and look for a job. I'm not prepared. I haven't worked in 3 years and I'm not up to date in my medical knowledge. I loss my last job because I was so scared and insecure. Now I have all this. What is reasonable? I'm getting to the point I can finally study after the kids are in bed. But it's exhausting. My x offers no relief with the kids but 3-4 hrs /wk. What job is going to let me take my son to all his therapy. My husband doesn't want to be involved. If he want to see the kids and there is a dr appmt or a therapy appmt he bows out. He won't even learn how to feed them their special diets.

What's resonsable?