My H has alienated me for no good reason other than wanting to be alone and not being happy (in my eyes he is having an affair). He won't come home till late, sometimes after midnight, on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, then goes out all day on Sunday since 2 months ago. Occasionally he spends all night else where.

He had to pick yesterday (Sunday) to not come home when a couple of wildfires were going on in the county. When the neighbor knocked on the door, rang the doorbell, I thought something may have happened to my car in the driveway, because the wind was blowing like crazy, or maybe it was the cop to tell me something happened to him.

Right after I closed the door, I felt so helpless. H doesn't carry the cell phone anymore and I had no way of contacting him at all. All I could do was emailing him at both work and home accounts.