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Feeling guilty

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My stbx announced this morning that she would be meeting her single female friend (aged 40, never been married, but very attractive) around four, that they were going to have an early dinner and then off to a Halloween party with costumes, etc., and not to expect her home (we sleep in seperate rooms) until very late.
So she flounced out dressed to the nines around 3:45 and casually says to our 7 year old son that she will see him in the morning.
So when she had gone, my son asked me where his mom was going. I turned to my son, and I said, 'It looks like your mother has abandoned us again'. (BTW, she goes out usually three times a week with her friends and doesn't get back till late.)
When she had gone. me and him built a model truck out of Lego tonight, together. He's a great kid.
Why am I feeling guilty that I said that?
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Dont be so hard on your self we all say things sometimes we shouldnt say and you said it out of hurt. Just forgive yourself and be more careful next time.
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its up to us to bite our tongues and be healthy. damn them for making our tongues bleed so often
deleted_user
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We are all human and we hurt like the next person. Clearly you are the adult here trying to raise your son while your X is playing the field.

Hang in there and in the end you are with your son and he loves you. Don't be too hard on yourself.
1toughcookie
1toughcookie
I can relate. My babies are only 11 months old but they had learned to say dada before we split. They sometimes now call for him and I'll say something like dada is gine, he don't love us. I feel guilty for it even though I know they are somewhat clueless as to what I mean. I have to stop doing that. Kids end up getting angry at us for saying things like that. They think we are being bad guys. We're not bad guys, we are just hurt and we say somethings that we might not need to. Tell your son that you didn't mean that in a bad way and just enjoy him. Let her miss out on all the cool stuff.
deleted_user
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As wrong it is to say, for we are human and for your son I am sure feels the pain as well. Guilty should be short lived for the guilty abandonded you and your son.
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Your son, no matter what age he is, knows what's going on. It's a hard job, but it's up to you to let him know that he is loved and has a soft place to fall when he's with you. You may feel guilty for what you said, but in the future you can just make a reply like, "She went out, and while we're together we're going to have fun."
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