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Feeling down tonight

Jlhorlando
Jlhorlando
It's friday night and I am home alone. My kids went to their dad's house tonight for the first time (they are teens). They are having a bbq with him his girlfriend and their 1/2 brother (who is 8). It's been 9 months since he told us about the "other family" and moved out. I am just crying, thinking about them all over there together. I have never felt so alone. I know that this is a positive step for the kids. They need to get over this hurdle to move on to keep a relationship with their dad. But it's really hard for me. I guess I could use some words of friendship and support right now. Thanks
deleted_user
deleted_user
awwwwwwww jh, I'm SO sorry to hear. I know it's tough. I hate that you are going through this & I can feel your pain!~! I'm here for you!~!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Oh, my friend, I know you are ahving a whole mix of feelings right now. I am somewhat familiar with your story, I can only imagine the range of emotions you are having now. Being human is so incredible and so complex. I really like you. You will be OK. I know you are crying, but you will be OK. I know you can think of things that you are grateful for. The pain he has caused you and your family is just something that is and you must deal with not like or love. I wish I had some good advice, I am trying, but mostly I just feel sad for you and cry with you.
deleted_user
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I am so sorry you have to go through this. I am anticipating that I will have to do the same in the future as my childrens father is now expecting a child with OW. All I can say is try to have the strength for the kids sake. Take care, I am right here with you. Beth
deleted_user
deleted_user
Are they coming home tonight?
Jlhorlando
Jlhorlando
Yes, they are coming home. Thank you all so much. I just really needed some friends tonight. You all are the best!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I really like you and I really want you to get thru tonite as best as you can!
deleted_user
deleted_user
you are SO welcome, jh, not a problem at all!~!
deleted_user
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Take this time to do something for YOU ..relax..take a long hot bubble bath with soft music and candelight..enjoy the time you have..and God bless
deleted_user
deleted_user
One weekend in the near future we will have a FL gathering and all of us lonely people will be together for at least one evening!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hey J I like Bob's idea do something totally for yourself. And a Florida get together sounds good to me. I go to school on Saturdays though keep me in mind.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Your little kitten seems so happy. It is hard ever imagining that you are sad!

Big sigh! I can't begin to imagine what you must be feeling. But, I can see that you are such an unselfish Mom.

Why does this have to happen? I just truly do not get it!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I guess we're in this together!
deleted_user
deleted_user
we are in this together

it si a very common human condition, as far as I can tell
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am sorry, my kids are here and all laughing and having fun. But I feel so sad inside I can't be part of it. It is hard to have to deal with this pain.
Jlhorlando
Jlhorlando
The kids are home and they had a nice time. My son said it was nice and he'll be going back and will start to sleep over. My daughter didn't say much except that it was nice and she was glad her boyfriend went also. I know the kids were aprehensive, and I'm glad they did alright. But why am I so upset? I shouldn't be, I get the kids 90% of the time and now I will have some opportunity to socialize (if they start to sleep over weekends) - I guess I just hate that they accept OW. I hope that someday I will be able to forgive stbx and OW, but right now.......NOT.
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