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I feel like such a bad person and awful mother. My husband went to his bank today to arrange a loan to pay me off my share of our house.... and to enable me to put down a deposit on a new apartment.
He is in a right mood saying that is he is going to be in debt now right up until he retires and will have to work all the hours and days.
He has told our children (not really kids tbh.... 17 & 20).... that Christmas is cancelled this year as I will have fleeced him of all his money.
I am struggling with this dam form E and he is just not being pleasent ..... I know we have endowments and life insurance but not the details and of course he isn't going to help me with them.
Thing is I have wanted to leave for years and have made it known.... all he would ever say was "well you want to leave .... there is the door". I never wanted it to get nasty and ok maybe there is no such thing as an amicable divorce..... but I HATE nastiness and it's making me out to be a bad person. My son (17) has been told he won't get a season ticket for next season by his dad.....
I truly feel should I just forget all this and just live a dam lie.... but I NEED to go I HAVE to.
He is in a right mood saying that is he is going to be in debt now right up until he retires and will have to work all the hours and days.
He has told our children (not really kids tbh.... 17 & 20).... that Christmas is cancelled this year as I will have fleeced him of all his money.
I am struggling with this dam form E and he is just not being pleasent ..... I know we have endowments and life insurance but not the details and of course he isn't going to help me with them.
Thing is I have wanted to leave for years and have made it known.... all he would ever say was "well you want to leave .... there is the door". I never wanted it to get nasty and ok maybe there is no such thing as an amicable divorce..... but I HATE nastiness and it's making me out to be a bad person. My son (17) has been told he won't get a season ticket for next season by his dad.....
I truly feel should I just forget all this and just live a dam lie.... but I NEED to go I HAVE to.
deleted_user
go your kids will understand if not right away in time,im sure they would rather you be happy than have xmas gifts.
Thriver
Your kids are old enough to understand the real sitch. They probably knew you had to leave before you did. Be true to yourself - don't even consider postponing the pain.
deleted_user
why should you feel bad and guilty, he is the one feeding this crap to the kids. and he is doing it on purpose so they will feel bad and blame you. your kids are old enough to understand the situation. explain it to them, that for you and ex, it's over. your ex is trying to get them mad at you. and no way, don't live the lie anymore. you deserve to find some happiness.
deleted_user
He's just playing the guilt card. Saying these things to his own children is both childish and mean!
deleted_user
Kids are selfish and sounds like your husband is too! The kids will be upset because they will not get stuff but YOU can still attempt and give them a good holiday and then he will look like the jerk.
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