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feel bad about leaving

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I feel so bad about wanting to leave him---he has NOWHERE to go and NO MONEY to got there. I don't know what to do anymore this has been the longest 3 days of my entire life.
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Are you sure he has no where to go? No friends, family, coworkers, etc?, or does he tell you he has no place to go. You didn't ask for his abuse and the kids didn't ask for the abuse either. I know about this as my sister went through it and it took a trip to the hospital to change it. Unfortunately I was in CA and they were in VA or I would have (well tried anyway) beat the .... out of him. He's a bit larger than I and I'm not small. Anyway, I don't care if it's "just" verbal abuse (that can actually be worst for a kid). He chose his path when he decided to be mean. You now have to make the right choice for you and your children and get them into a better environment.

You mentioned in one of your other posts that he was out with friends, when was the last time he let you go out and he stayed with the kids? I know the type, and I know the answer. Sorry to be getting so charged up, but as I said it happened to my sister (who's also to blame for not getting out) and it still gets me fired up. BTW, my sister's situation happened 13 years ago and they have gotten to be "friends" (he stopped drinking and he's a much different person.) They have a child together and they now work as a team in raising him.
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I kicked my H out and he kept sayinghe had no where to go and no money, so I told him to call his mom and go sleep on her couch. I felt bad also and gave him many chances to leave. Things finally got ugly (no physical abuse) yelling ect. I packed his stuff, changed the lockes and put him out. It ended up I filed a restraining order but eventually he calmed down and now we are civil. I have a 5yr old I had to do what was best for her.
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