Our security of a sense of safety has been taken from us and we face the great unknown with a sense of fear. For so long we had a sense of belonging a sense of security and protection. We didn't have to worry as much because the other was there to help watch out for us and now they are not there.
Now we are left standing like a lost child in the park crying out feeling scared and confused. I will tell you all, I am scared as hell, though I liked being the protector and making her feel safe, she still made me feel safe. All of our world has changed. We need to face that independence again. We have done it before but it wasn't as scarey when we first faced it. It is all different now. So what makes it any different then before? It was we grew into it being a part of each other. That spouse became a part of us, made us feel protected and safe, now we need to look back into ourselves for that sense of safety. Each day passes by we begin to protect our heart. We put the pieces back together and we go on and we "fear the unknown" but we have to realize that we need to be comfortable in ourselves again and knowing that we learned more about ourselves in this painful experience. We need the comfort in ourselves. It will take time but we need to get there.
Sorry my posts seem to get long each time but I am learning more about myself and just want to share my thoughts with you good people.
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