
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

keepthehope
Our security of a sense of safety has been taken from us and we face the great unknown with a sense of fear. For so long we had a sense of belonging a sense of security and protection. We didn't have to worry as much because the other was there to help watch out for us and now they are not there.
Now we are left standing like a lost child in the park crying out feeling scared and confused. I will tell you all, I am scared as hell, though I liked being the protector and making her feel safe, she still made me feel safe. All of our world has changed. We need to face that independence again. We have done it before but it wasn't as scarey when we first faced it. It is all different now. So what makes it any different then before? It was we grew into it being a part of each other. That spouse became a part of us, made us feel protected and safe, now we need to look back into ourselves for that sense of safety. Each day passes by we begin to protect our heart. We put the pieces back together and we go on and we "fear the unknown" but we have to realize that we need to be comfortable in ourselves again and knowing that we learned more about ourselves in this painful experience. We need the comfort in ourselves. It will take time but we need to get there.
Sorry my posts seem to get long each time but I am learning more about myself and just want to share my thoughts with you good people.
Thanks
Now we are left standing like a lost child in the park crying out feeling scared and confused. I will tell you all, I am scared as hell, though I liked being the protector and making her feel safe, she still made me feel safe. All of our world has changed. We need to face that independence again. We have done it before but it wasn't as scarey when we first faced it. It is all different now. So what makes it any different then before? It was we grew into it being a part of each other. That spouse became a part of us, made us feel protected and safe, now we need to look back into ourselves for that sense of safety. Each day passes by we begin to protect our heart. We put the pieces back together and we go on and we "fear the unknown" but we have to realize that we need to be comfortable in ourselves again and knowing that we learned more about ourselves in this painful experience. We need the comfort in ourselves. It will take time but we need to get there.
Sorry my posts seem to get long each time but I am learning more about myself and just want to share my thoughts with you good people.
Thanks
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I ramble too. Most see it as good therapy. I feel good when I vent even when its not an angry vent. It helps me sort out where I am at.
Today I am in acceptance, and this is an easier state than all the previous.
I know I will be okay if I live alone for the rest of my life.
If I fall in live I know it could happen again. This time I will be sure that I dont hook up with someone that can drag me over the coals financially. The heartbreak of divorce is enough without anything more added to it.
So...full steam ahead...lol.
For sure I will avoid the needy and the drunks. Amen.
There is less fear if you know whats ahead. The unknown can be knocked off its high horse.
Good Luck to you, and ramble on!