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Hi all
It really seems over in my marriage, after 13 years together (we were very young) and, while we still live together, my husband is never ever home before 2-3-4am due to work commitments and possibly seeing another woman.
I am not used to being alone and common friends have disappeared and so have the in-laws. I was not born in the Uk and so my family is abroad. I have some friends but am disappointed at seeing how my social life revolved around my marriage, our common friends and his family. I am now left feeling very alone, abandoned by all and very rejected. While I have some really good friends, most are not in the city I live in or have left it and so it is difficult to arrange things together. I am very sociable and fun loving, but I seem to have a real need to be with people, which I am now understanding my be a fear of being alone. I will try and tackle it, but is it normal to feel this sense of loss and abandonement or is it me and my fears?
I try my best and want to sort myself out before I even think of another relationship, so that I do not make the same mistakes. I feel I am a bit of a people pleaser to and this again may be due to my fear of being alone. Do any of you experience or have experienced similar feelings? If so, how do you cope?
Thank you for any advice and have a good day.
It really seems over in my marriage, after 13 years together (we were very young) and, while we still live together, my husband is never ever home before 2-3-4am due to work commitments and possibly seeing another woman.
I am not used to being alone and common friends have disappeared and so have the in-laws. I was not born in the Uk and so my family is abroad. I have some friends but am disappointed at seeing how my social life revolved around my marriage, our common friends and his family. I am now left feeling very alone, abandoned by all and very rejected. While I have some really good friends, most are not in the city I live in or have left it and so it is difficult to arrange things together. I am very sociable and fun loving, but I seem to have a real need to be with people, which I am now understanding my be a fear of being alone. I will try and tackle it, but is it normal to feel this sense of loss and abandonement or is it me and my fears?
I try my best and want to sort myself out before I even think of another relationship, so that I do not make the same mistakes. I feel I am a bit of a people pleaser to and this again may be due to my fear of being alone. Do any of you experience or have experienced similar feelings? If so, how do you cope?
Thank you for any advice and have a good day.
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