Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
First off, I want to confess that this profile is new and specifically for this post. I've been on DS for a while now. But I wanted some unbiased advice and was afraid that if alot of my friends here recognized me, they would continue to be the supportive friends that they are, and be too nice when I'm really looking for brutal honesty. So, please forgive me.
I've met someone here on DS. He lives more than 2,000 miles away. We've both been separated for months but our divorces aren't final and won't be for another 2 or 3 months, at least. We've been emailing each other every day (sometimes several times a day) for a while, and we IM (sometimes for hours on end) every night. We have so much in common, it's scary. We seem to have been in similar relationships. Both of us were the spouse that sought approval from a controlling spouse. Our STBX's are very much alike. Some of our stories about how they related to us during the marriage are so incredibly similar (their attitudes and outlook, even specific situations) it's amazing.
We instantly clicked. And now that we've spent so much time sharing so much of ourselves and our situations, we've grown very close. We've never met, and yet we miss each other. How crazy is that? If it weren't for the distance between us, I'm sure we would have met already. We do have plans to meet as soon as our divorces are final. It's really wonderful but torturous at the same time. (And just in case youre wondering, no, were not having cyber-sex.)
Do you guys think it's possible to begin a real relationship this way? Are we being foolish? Or are we completely insane? Is there any harm in what were doing? Should we just enjoy this wonderful experience and see where it goes? Is it possible to fall in love over the internet?
I've met someone here on DS. He lives more than 2,000 miles away. We've both been separated for months but our divorces aren't final and won't be for another 2 or 3 months, at least. We've been emailing each other every day (sometimes several times a day) for a while, and we IM (sometimes for hours on end) every night. We have so much in common, it's scary. We seem to have been in similar relationships. Both of us were the spouse that sought approval from a controlling spouse. Our STBX's are very much alike. Some of our stories about how they related to us during the marriage are so incredibly similar (their attitudes and outlook, even specific situations) it's amazing.
We instantly clicked. And now that we've spent so much time sharing so much of ourselves and our situations, we've grown very close. We've never met, and yet we miss each other. How crazy is that? If it weren't for the distance between us, I'm sure we would have met already. We do have plans to meet as soon as our divorces are final. It's really wonderful but torturous at the same time. (And just in case youre wondering, no, were not having cyber-sex.)
Do you guys think it's possible to begin a real relationship this way? Are we being foolish? Or are we completely insane? Is there any harm in what were doing? Should we just enjoy this wonderful experience and see where it goes? Is it possible to fall in love over the internet?
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I miss traveling with my husband. Has anyone found a specific site regarding cruising for widow/widowers or any sightseeing trips. Not interested in being with couples and kids,,,I realize a cruise ship will have a portion size of families and couples, but perhaps they also put together a part of the cruise ship for groups of widows/widowers????
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A friend sent this to me..As far as I can see, grief will never truly end.It may become softer overtime, more gentleand some days will feel sharp.But grief will last as long as Love does - ForeverIt's simply the way the absence of your loved onemanifests in your heart. A deep longing accompaniedby the deepest Love some days. The heavy fog mayreturn and the next day, it may recede.Once again, it's...
I guess, just remember you are both extremly vulnerable right now, so take it slow;)
ARE YOU HAPPY, and little scared, and nervous, and excited and you get the point.
Enjoy you deserve happiness!!!