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Falling in love on DS?

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First off, I want to confess that this profile is new and specifically for this post. I've been on DS for a while now. But I wanted some unbiased advice and was afraid that if alot of my friends here recognized me, they would continue to be the supportive friends that they are, and be too nice when I'm really looking for brutal honesty. So, please forgive me.

I've met someone here on DS. He lives more than 2,000 miles away. We've both been separated for months but our divorces aren't final and won't be for another 2 or 3 months, at least. We've been emailing each other every day (sometimes several times a day) for a while, and we IM (sometimes for hours on end) every night. We have so much in common, it's scary. We seem to have been in similar relationships. Both of us were the spouse that sought approval from a controlling spouse. Our STBX's are very much alike. Some of our stories about how they related to us during the marriage are so incredibly similar (their attitudes and outlook, even specific situations) it's amazing.

We instantly clicked. And now that we've spent so much time sharing so much of ourselves and our situations, we've grown very close. We've never met, and yet we miss each other. How crazy is that? If it weren't for the distance between us, I'm sure we would have met already. We do have plans to meet as soon as our divorces are final. It's really wonderful but torturous at the same time. (And just in case youre wondering, no, were not having cyber-sex.)

Do you guys think it's possible to begin a real relationship this way? Are we being foolish? Or are we completely insane? Is there any harm in what were doing? Should we just enjoy this wonderful experience and see where it goes? Is it possible to fall in love over the internet?
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You can meet somebody anywhere there are no rules for meeting somebody and falling in love
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I absolutely believe it is possible to "meet" and fall in love (genuinely) with someone online. I think you should cautiously explore the possibilities. Take it slow, there's no reason to rush things, right?
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Chicken , tell us who you are! I dare you!
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how about 20 questions???
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I truly believe that you can fall in love with someone you meet here. You can fall in love with someone that you meet anywhere. Here you have to get to know that person fully through talking and writing before you even get that whole physical part when you finally do meet. Good Luck! Take It Slow. Remember what you've learned from your past and apply it to the future.
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Wow! I guess anything is possible! There are no gaurantee's about anyone's realness anymore. Here is as good as any other place
I guess, just remember you are both extremly vulnerable right now, so take it slow;)
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I am an absolute believer in finding true love online, for a number of reasons.... you can get to know each other before you get the whole physical thing happening... I wish you nothing but the best.....
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Possible, most definitely - you are both healing. Foolish - nothing foolish about sharing your deepest thoughts with someone you enjoy talking to and feel you can TRUST. Insane - Naaah - Geographically unacceptable maybe. Harmful - not unless someone isn't being honest or is not who they say they are. Enjoy the ride - just don't put blinders on! And YES you can fall in love over the internet. I did.
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Well, I didn't come here to look, that's for sure. But if I found someone here, that would be a good thing! I agree to be careful though. Nobody's perfect, on-line, in person, wherever. That would be great if it happened. It's possible!
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just like someone else said, there are no rules to falling in love. The fact that you have been able to share in a really vulnerable time in your lives, is really good. Becoming friends first, is always the best way to start a love affair. The only problem i see, is that if once u meet and one of u r not attracted to the other person. This could be really painful to both of u, especially during this time. I think that u should meet as soon as possible, to see if there is a spark. Your divorces are in progress, so see how u feel in person. U r not doing anything wrong, so enjoy the flirtation, until u meet. Good for u two. We are all dying to know who the special person is!!!! If it doesnt work out, we are still here for both of u.
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yes I do believe that you can fall in love with anyone ,anywhere,anytime.If the person that you are talking to someone that is honest and have things in commom and have shared a lot of about themselfs,no it not foolish. I would take it slow and keep talking.
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Does it matter how you find a relationship?

ARE YOU HAPPY, and little scared, and nervous, and excited and you get the point.

Enjoy you deserve happiness!!!
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I think that the situation of how you two came to meet makes it romantic and powerful. Even if nothing becomes of it, didn't the experience help with your respective divorces? My philosophy is that in every event there is a good side and when you find one like this consider yourself blessed and do what makes you feel good.
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I like that Joey, it does feel romantic and powerful.
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I think it's wonderful. I'm not here looking, but if it happens that would be nice. Good luck to both of you, and I hope that it works out! :)
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