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Falling Around Love

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ok so me and my boyfriend have been together for about 2 yrs n 8 months and for a while now i been falling out of love with him(if that makes sense) i still love and care about him to pieces its jus my feelings changed a bit for him and then he does something lil n i get those butterflies in my stomach for a bit and then he does something that i dont like n i want to get him out of my sight but less n less butterflies are coming and i think its time to break up but its hard because i been with him for so long and i feel soo attatched to him for some reason (it could be because he's the guy that took my virginity) but im not sure exactly wut to do
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All I can say is it took my wife 14 years to come to the same place you are at right now. believe me it will be a lot easier breaking the ties now than it would if you get married and have kids. also it will be easier on him. if you do care for him and you feel that he is not the one, maybe you should break it off. that's just my opinion from being on the other side of the situation. hope you make the right decision.
deleted_user
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Sad just curious,
Has someone else started to catch your eye?
deleted_user
deleted_user
I wondered the same as pgamble.
deleted_user
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You are so young. You have a whole life ahead of you with a lot of diiferent experiences coming your way. If you're not sure he's the one suggest taking a break from each other for a certain amount of time and then see what feelings you are having. Take care and good luck.
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Slow slow slow is the best advice I can give. Listen to these little voices, they are very important. Nobody says you have to break-up, you just need to pull back a little. If I have any regrets, it would be choosing to move in with my girl friend. She later became my wife and then after 13 years my ex-wife. I firmly believe if we had not moved in together we would have stayed friends and the relationship would have drifted. By moving in we felt like we had few options except to stay together and ultimately get married.

We often use simple words like love but I think it is so much bigger then 1 word. If you are choosing a life mate, they should be your friend, you should feel safe, secure, appreciated, respected and loved. Don't rush any of this. Best of luck.
deleted_user
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I would ask him for it back!

And see about getting that eye back too.

I like the title, "around" love.

Go with your gut kiddo, the gut always knows. ;)
deleted_user
deleted_user
Deggar I dead on agree with you about moving in. In my hindsight is 20/20 view of things, this was a biggie.
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