No, but I am happy for you that you have felt the butterflies again.

Yes, I have. I meet a someone new that turned me into butter. Was honest with her and she understands my situation. Currently I am not divorced yet. She has supported me in some ways, but I still protect myself in many ways. Number one thing is not to use the "L" word in anyway shape or form. Just be happy with them and enjoy the feelings again.

I think you should feel the butterflys, enjoy them. But take it slow. No rebound relationship. The fact that you are being honest is very important!!

yes, its called a rebound relationship. you're not going to be able to fully enjoy a relationship until you heal from the breakup. you will push all the bad stuff that was in your marriage and will rear its ugly head in this relationship then when this one ends, you will fall twice as hard than the divorce. take it real slow with this person, or put brakes on it immediately if you find this person long term possibility.

Happy for you that someone makes you feel that great.

As for me.. scared, battered, bruised...I get a thrill when the grocery clerk bags my food...lol....

or the gas attendant smiles at me.....

hey...so I take what I get okay?...lol

I kinda agree it is a Rebound thing btw... so many of us want nice companionship, a friendly voice, a caring person close to us right now, because we have not been treated well in so very long.

Babysteps... babysteps.. don't leap into the fire too soon darling.

Couldn't agree more with JT & Rose. Not knowing how long you hvae been in this process, for me it's been a little over 2 months since I filed. But I have a VERY LONG WAYS to go before even considering another relationship. You are probably doing the right thing in being totally honest with her about where you are at. Just be careful.

Canadian-where do you shop for groceries?!?!

I am glad you have felt the butterflies again but in the same since I agree with JT. You should really take it very slow and just be friends for awhile and see. It could just be that you are feeling so lonely right now and you want something or someone to fill that. Just be careful for yourself.

Thanks everyone for your comments and concerns - and I understand the whole rebound thing.

Just be careful. You are still hurting, and I hear it is hard to step into another relationship when it is a rebound. I am told it usually doesn't work. However, if you approach the situation carefully.... I know you can make it work! Just enjoy what you are feeling, and take it slow. Maybe it will help you heal. Be picky, you deserve the best!

I'm happy for you, but like everyone has said, be careful and go slow.
Although I'm not ready, I'm jealous of your butterflies!

Take it slow and easy but enjoy! Don't go in expecting this to be a permanent relationship and I think you will handle it just fine.

I used to hate butterflies-I thought they made me stupid-But I think butterflies means it is the right time-I am happy for you.

I agree it is really nice to feel wanted but to me it is also really scary. I am more scared of hurting someone else the way my stbx hurt me. I have been told it takes 3 to 5 years to recover from divorce. That is scary to me also but at least if I heal I will be more ready to take the chance on love again.

I think being honest is a positive step and like everyone else I think you have to take it so slow. Be careful with her heart but also be careful with yours

Lady at BP gas station calls everyone Hon. I know she really means it when she says it to me. lol.

Is that L word " love " or "Lust" .which one can't you use?

LOL and rock on dude.. enjoy feeling desireable again... wish someone said I gave them butterflies....