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Facing the Weekend--Need Encouragement

hurtinandhealin2560
hurtinandhealin2560
Hi all,

Once again I'm feeling anxiety because I'm facing the weekend (when the stbx and I did everything together), and it is scaring me to death.

Seems all friends and family are busy. Any suggestions? Just need some encouragement. Thanks.
sfsoccermom
sfsoccermom
Go get a manicure and pediacure or watch a movie only you want to see. Hugs!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Run errands, clean house, take a long walk if it's nice out, go to garage sales and find something to take on Antiques Roadshow (hopefully).


Also, come here and talk to people - do chatzy. Watch a new movie, and cook yourself something massively decadent!
deleted_user
deleted_user
You'll find some folks on DS at pretty much any time. Pick up a movie (something out of the norm) that might distract you.

As hard as it may seem, plan to do something (anything) outside. A walk, a run, a bike ride. Physically it will help make you feel at least a little bit better. Go for a walk/run/ride long enough and it might even help you sleep, which can usually be a big challenge.
deleted_user
deleted_user
back when it was harder for me..i drove around and blasted music (angry music) and cried til i got empowered again..also spend alot of time on here..we'll talk ya thru it..stay strong..you can do this!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Read a good book.

Go to the movies - I just did this for the first time by myself and it wasn't bad!

Turn on the radio and do your nails.

Go outside and watch the world go by. So relaxing!

Go the mall and walk around. Lots of interesting people to watch there!
MsBlank1
MsBlank1
(((hugs))) My lawyer has my first born,one lung and my bank acct,so I don't really go any where.Rescueme usually puts up some good threads which make time go by.Drop in and have fun :)
deleted_user
deleted_user
Make this weekend all about you, go shopping even window and come up with new ideas to change your surroundings.. It'll keep you busy and make you feel good at the end of the day.. Change is good.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Oh. Something I also do:

I look through magazines and on websites to start planning out how I will decorate the first place I've ever had ON MY OWN. Gosh I love that :)
hurtinandhealin2560
hurtinandhealin2560
Thanks for all the suggestions. You guys are great!!! Feeling better already.
deleted_user
deleted_user
It's easy to spend a few hours here a day! Make a list of all those little jobs that need doing, then start working on it. You wont feel like it, but as you cross off items you'll feel motivated. Ring a local hospital or old people's home and ask if there's anyone who might like a visitor (especially for Mother's Day) and go and bless someone else with some flowers from your garden and a few cookies. It will end up blessing you too!
deleted_user
deleted_user
This weekend I plan to clean my fridge, throw out all stbx's food, wipe off his fingerprints from all surface of my kitchen. Then I am going to have dinner with friends and go dancing.
Do you have family & friends who you can spend time with?
deleted_user
deleted_user
I would drive to the coast and walk along the beach. Just keep busy. Yard sales are a great suggestion. I did spend a lot of time on DS initially. It was enlightening to read about other peoples problems. Soon you find out there are people out there you can help.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Definately try and get outside. Call up a friend, even if it's just a change of scenery to go to their house. I also play Fizgig on gsn.com to help pass the time. Just a suggestion. You need a distraction.
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