feelin ur pain...this is gonna be hard...christmas most difficult

Ditto. The holidays are the worst time of year anyway for me, this year will be brutal.

No one is more shocked than I am about the changes in my life since this time last year.

A year ago, I was in MA and stbx was living in a hotel in VT. Our house in MA was up for sale, I was packing it up and we were under contract for a house in VT and just waiting to close at the end of November.

We talked on the phone daily and cried about how we missed each other and how hard it was to live apart and how much it sucked that we couldn't close before Thanksgiving and be together for all the holidays last year.

Now he's living with his new woman and I'm going to my brother's for Thanksgiving.

Who would have thunk it?

hang with other family if you can, go to a neighbors house, just keep your mind busy making new memery and let go of the old, it hurts less each year.

I believe what I'm going (and am currently doing) is telling different people (family/friends) that I doing different things, and what I'm actually GOING TO DO, IS A BIG FAT NOTHING.

I was called by my grandmother today and was either lied to/manipulated/guilted by her by telling me my father is returning from Florida and I QUOTE "He is filled with cancer" and she wants me to contact him.

For the first time in my life, I will sneak this holiday away, and stay home and not acknowledge it.

It's my day too. And after the year I've had, I have the god damn right to do what I like with it.

I will not operate on Thursday just to make others happy.

I"m not happy, so fuck it.

I'm dealing with it, everyone else can too.

Once it's over, I'll get back to my job of making everybody else happy.

What's the holiday? Thanksgiving?

Besides the fact that I am alive and breathing (and sometimes I don't even feel this way) THAT'S ALL I'M GRATEFUL FOR.

OH yeah. Fucking fuck fuck fucking fuck fuck.

your post makes me cry just reading it because it is the holiday, christmas coming soon and yep, our family is split apart...just 3 weeks ago we all went out for birthday dinners for my son and daughter, and had such a good time. he is throwing his family away. how can he do that? how can another woman replace that???? (how can another woman replace me?) what is f....g wrong wtih him??? why couldn't he have waited until january??? I'm sorry you feel this way, but i'm right there with you, walking beside you because i soooooo understand

I slept last year's Thanksgiving and X-mases away. Because I could and because I didn't want to live with the hurt and pain. I don't regret sleeping at all. I was due for being able to ignore the Holidays I despise.

I faked happy during Thanksgiving and Christmas a year ago. Exhausting. This year will be better, but not great. Lots of steps back for me lately too. I hate those "firsts" too, but at least I got them out of the way last year while things were completely raw.

When you mind drifts into the happy past memories, you have to stop yourself. I just start shaking my and saying No, No, No.......

Really anyone would go crazy remember...last year at this time......

I was once told I'm not responsible for what enters my mind, but I am responsible for what I do with it after it get there.

I understand your pain Cleopatra....feeling it very much. Just want to go somewhere else where there is some smiles and fun. THIS is to SAD!!!

This may be the most meaningful Thxgiving I have had in years. I will spend it with someone whom I have known for years, but have just recently really formed a true friendship with. She was there for me in a very big way a couple of months ago, at a time when I thought I was going to lose it behidn this divorce adn the stress of handling the business strains. She gave me a gift that no-one else could have, and did it voluntarily. Now she is experiencing a much more traumatic and devastating loss than I have ever contemplated and she has asked me to spend the day with her sharing a meal at her home-- I could not be more pleased. I never, ever would have thunk that this would be how I would spend my 2007 Thxgiving holiday, yet I cannot think of a more authentic invitation in many, many years. Life is so very interesting in its twists and its turns.

I understand how you feel. I notified everyone that as far as I'm concerned, there is no Thanksgiving or Christmas this year.
My plans: I volunteered to help set-up and serve Thanksgiving dinner for the local Salvation Army's dinner for the needy because I know that my life sucks, but there are alot of people out there whose life sucks alot worse than mine. I hope it makes me feel better. If not, oh well, I've got some single friends coming over after that and we're going to get drunker than hell and I'll probably be barking at the moon :)

I am right there with you. I have decided to go away for the holiday. It's just to painful here!

I'm so sorry that thanksgiving is tearing you up. One thing that makes me feel better though this year is that I won't have to deal with his snide comments to my family and rushing through after-meal conversation so we can leave. I so much look forward to being on my own time again at least Thurs. After that he takes the kids to his parents -- which will be really rough on me so I need to find something fun to do...still working on that one. Hope your holidays are so much better than you're expecting.