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Fear

deleted_user
deleted_user
Which are you more afraid of:

Finding the wrong person
or
Not finding anyone at all
FinalFantasy
FinalFantasy
Finding no one at all.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Finding the wrong person. I am enough for myself. I can't let someone take that away from me again.
deleted_user
deleted_user
From my own experience I have found that being married to the wrong person is a worse kind of lonlieness than actually being alone. So, I'd rather be alone than with the wrong person.
Good question!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Finding the wrong person.....after the hell i've been through I can honestly say that fnding the wrong person will NEVER happen again. We should be MORE afraid of not finding ourselves..... I think I got that one licked too! only one way to go from here and thats UP!
deleted_user
deleted_user
wrong person. don't even have any trust that there is a "right" person. i hadn't thought about this, but now that i have i am kind of bummed.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm afraid of finding the wrong person and not realizing it.

I don't know how to be single or gauge the right person because I'm afraid of being alone.

I'm also afraid of being the wrong person for the other person.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'd rather not find anyone than find the wrong person the next time.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm with everyone else on this one. I'd rather be alone than with the wrong person again! Nothing more painful than that.
LarryLDN
LarryLDN
I don't believe in wrong persons ;) Reason, season, lifetime. I just hope there's Plenty of seasons in the lifetime left. I haven't even Started.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Finding the wrong person!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm really not afraid of being alone and I have been with the wrong person for almost 10 years. Yes, being with the wrong person is very very lonely. I find I have more intelligent conversations with myself. LOL
bigguy3
bigguy3
Finding the wrong person is the bigger fear for me.

It is so painful to find someone you think is right and invest yourself completely in the relationship and have the relationship fail.

I have met a few people that have shown interest in wanting to spend a lot of time with me ... but I am afraid of emotionally investing myself for fear of getting hurt again.

Good question.
deleted_user
deleted_user
i'm afraid of finding the wrong person. i don't think i ever could get through this kind of pain again.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Finding no one at all is what I am more fearful of. I am also fearful of finding the wrong person (abusive, or the like).
shinyhappypeople
shinyhappypeople
For sure finding the WRONG person!
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