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Exercise, exercise, exercise!

BirkenstockBabe
BirkenstockBabe
Yesterday was not a day I was looking forward to--absolutely out of groceries--had to go to the store in deep snow with no auto insurance and a seven-year-old in tow. Then home to lug groceries down the sidewalk and up the stairs, make dinner, and lug lots of garbage down the stairs and to the curb.

I had started bawling in the cheese section at the grocery store, and was not having a good day....

However, much to my surprise, after making like 15 trips up and down the stairs....I felt better!!!!! I don't know why I didn't know this would help that much--I have done graduate work in exercise physiology and wellness, but it's like I know in THEORY that the endorphins released by exercise will help your mood, but hadn't experienced it in so long that I forgot!


SO, having been given a lot of great advice from many folks here, let me offer my own piece back....if you feel crummy, exercise. The more the better....If you feel sore from it, don't worry, you're going to feel emotionally like crap for awhile anyway--might as well multi-task and have sore abs and thighs at the same time you're recovering from your heart being ripped out! By the time you're done feeling bad emotionally, you'll be fitter and/or thinner, AND you won't feel AS emotionally bad, because you'll be flooding your body with those feel-good endorphins!

Exercise, exercise, exercise! It'll make you feel better.
MonkeyB0y
MonkeyB0y
You inspire me to train for a marathon again.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I do at 5:45-6am every morning.
deleted_user
deleted_user
This was a good post! I don't know much about the actual science of physiology, but I picked up a friend from the hospital today, she had been in since Tuesday. She shared her education from this week about stress and adrenaline and energy build-up and stomach acid and damage to the body from stress and the importance of exercise and all and it was a real eye-opener/reminder! I started exercising regularly again in November, and it is extremely vital to well-being. Especially during a bad divorce, and I did NOT exercise in the beginning (or for the next year) and seriously wish I had had whatever it took to force myself to do so, I think it would have helped tremendously. For those of you who are in the beginning of the "process", please, get your body moving!
deleted_user
deleted_user
exercise DOES do wonders. I find especially doing cardio and then yoga relaxes me the most. :)
deleted_user
deleted_user
I lift and do cardio at least three times a week at the Y - I definately feel better.
veeachjay
veeachjay
I know that works....when I walk I feel so much better. It's just getting myself out there and making it a routine that's hard.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I sure makes me feel better. I go 4 or 5 times a week. I got that spring back in my step!
JudM
JudM
The best advice my counselor gave me when I exercise and take Vit B complex. Even on bad days pulled myself up and did it. Its the best remedy for depression,frustation and anxiety. Plus you look better to boot.
deleted_user
deleted_user
heck yeah! may i reccomend tai bo, seriously..couple of 5 pound hand weights and you're in fighting shape.liberating and good for putting that badonk-a-donk back up where it's supposed to be :)
deleted_user
deleted_user
one draw back to the gym i must share...creepy old dudes that are NOT in there to work out! case in point...the one today that sat on the weight bench behind my treadmill "working on his laptop" while really watching my postpartum ass run on the treadmill ew
deleted_user
deleted_user
regular cardio vascular excercise is almost as effective as antidepressant medication in reducing symptoms of depression. Last night i was crying my eyes out, running my 1 hour on the treadmill. by the time i was done, i was in a different headspace. running is saving my emotional world.

keep going!! don't think about it, just do it. you will benefit immensely.

best, need2bme
deleted_user
deleted_user
I have been an advocate of this since , I started here, It is one of the main things I say to all newcomers, is add some exercise. It was a life saver for me, in terms of clarity, gaining peace, and the lessons you learn from nature on a walk, are worth more than all the weight you lose, while walking. I wish every single person listening to this today would start out walking, Before long, you will be jogging and walking with weights , as I am! Awesome post:-) Thank you!
Roadrunner99
Roadrunner99
Walking most days has been very helpful to me. My walk is about 30-45 minutes, maybe a couple of miles.

I did not feel like walking today but I did and it changed everything. The sun was out and my mood lifted and the emotional load seemed lighter. The world did not change but my feelings changed a lot.
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