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EX vs. ME

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Long story short:

Married 14 years.
Divorced less than a year.
Two kids 13(girl) and 9(boy).

EX: in a serious relationship w/a woman. they go to the same church, they go out to eat w/my kids and hers, she comes over to his house w/my kids there. her son and my kids play together. yadayadayada....

ME: dating someone out of town, whom i see occasionally. my 'dating' life does not interfere w/my kids lives or schedules. they have not been introduced to him yet. waiting on the right time and opportunity for that.

QUESTION:

he Thanksgiving Holidays are coming up. I'm spending Wednesday w/the kids and my family. He is spending Thursday w/the kids and his family. He will have the kids that weekend. So, I'm going out of town and leaving on Thursday. He, of course, has a problem w/it and is trying to make me feel guilty for not being w/the kids on the holiday. He says the kids said they wanted to spend that day w/me. I know he is just trying to make me feel guilty.

DO I REALLY HAVE ANYTHING TO FEEL GUILTY ABOUT?
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I don't see why he has anything to say about it, wasn't this all prearranged, Damn all of this controlling by the ex just amazes me. No you don't need to feel guilty. He is being an ass.
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Heck no! Why should you feel guilty and don't allow him to put that on you. It's not like you are not going to see your kids at all. I bet he just wants to do something without the kids that weekend as well and he won't have that opportunity.
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I don't see anything wrong with that you have your day that you are with the kids and he already has the holiday. Why sit around when you could have plans. My soon to be ex has a girlfriend that he started dating a month after he filed papers. And he trys to make me feel guilty about what ever plans I have on the weekends without the kids. The only thing is I wish that my plans included someone special. But I would just take off and enjoy your time.
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no reason to feel guilty kc, your not disregarding them completely your having food with them on wednesday and giving him the opportunity to have dinner with them on thursday, so i see no big deal with that. Like lyn said he's trying to control you.
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he is scheduled to have the kids that weekend anyway. i usually have the kids on wed. and thurs. anyway. i just asked for him to keep them all day thursday and on into HIS weekend. i offered to make up for it by keeping them mon. and tues. too. so, that is what i'm doing. he just wants me to feel guilty for ??? reason.
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Nope.
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nope - go and have fun
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He has moved on,why would he try and prevent you from doing the same?
Is this repeat behaviour from your marriage?
Have you spoken to the kids for their view?
Second hand information is always best verified before acting on.
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Nope. Not a bit.

tell him to piss up a rope.
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KC...there is no need for you to feel guilty. You should go on your trip out of town, enjoy yourself and live your life. You X is just trying to control you...double standard. He can have a GF and do what he wants but you can't do anything without him. You are such a good mother and he uses the kids now as a means of trying to control your actions. There is nothing at all to feel guilty about.
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let me put this lightly...... HELL NO! Go on your trip, and have a great time!
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