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Ex Remarries... should I be upset?

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Hi all... brand new to the site... I actually filed for divorce LONG ago (8/04)... was not final til about 6 months ago (1/07)... and I'm just now seeking support... lol odd.
Anyway... the ex remarried a couple weeks ago... I'm confused that I'm not really feeling bad. Am I too numb or something? Is this normal? I still hold an awful lot of negative feelings toward the man but I really braced myself thinking this would be a huge upset...
I just can't shake the thought that I should be feeling more than this... The only real feeling I've had since is YAY! I feel officially rid of him...
Anyone else been through an ex remarrying?

Thanks for the insight.
Dawn
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It sounds like you have had a lot of time to process those feelings of ending your marriage. Like you, we all expect to no longer have feelings towards our ex our about our failed marriages. I have not yet has this experience. I am still dealing with the fact that my husband walked away from his family for the other woman. He has been with her for almost two years even though he left me only 15 months ago. I am still pissed that they are still together and wish karma would catch up to them!
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It will... karma is wonderful! I wish you well...

Dawn
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I suppose divorce just means the marriage is over. They could still change their mind and want you back. When they remarry, that adds an extra stamp of "final" to them being out of your life. I can imagine that, after a 2 1/2 year divorcing, you would be ready for it to be over...
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wow... makes perfect sense... glad I havne't just become heartless...

Dawn
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I also believe you can't own a dog and be heartless. It's just a theory. Of course, I have 3 so I guess my theory's flawed or I wouldn't be here in the divorce community. :)
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ah... so true... and he is an adorable, eager to please and always accepting fur ball!
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Mine remarried once & dumped her on their honeymoon. I heard last night he just asked someone again & is waiting fr her answer . Hey I feel sorry for her but will be thrilled to have something that gets him the hell out of my yard & my life.
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I think you should feel very sorry for their new spouse. I know I would if that happened.
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I can't wait for her to get remarried. That would certainly end a lot of my troubles. Let some other sucker deal with that psycho B****!
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My ex married my best friend this last Valentines Day. She is 36 and my ex is her fourth husband. Karma will be coming around soon to bite him in the ass and I hope I am there to see it so I can point and laugh.
JudM
JudM
I disagree, you can own a dog and be heartless, especially when you leave that dog behind.
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Well I have to say you did a fine job of bracing yourself. Good for you! I can only hope I am as strong when the day comes.
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