I sure wish I did not have to speak to or see the ex. Unfortately because of having little kids I will be seeing him a couple of times a week until my oldest starts to drive, only 9 more years til then!

I have caught my ex doing drive bys. Like why? let it go already! Next time I think I will wave and take a bow!!!!

isn't that a federal offense? i would report him!

Did he have his mail changed? It sounds like he moved out a while ago. I don't believe he has any legal right to your mailbox. Maybe you can get a P.O. box for a while. Then put a lock, if possible, on your mailbox.

I now have a PO Box because of my STBX. It sounds like this would be a good idea for you too...gotta protect yourself.

Last time my stbx was at our apartment (when I was out) he actually opened some of my mail, then casually presented some of it to me. He feels entitled because we're still married. Well, it won't be long. Just 4 1/2 more days of living here...this does remind me there are a couple more things I need to forward, though.

Sortof. My bit...uh, I mean STBX has a business and I set up her website under our combined yahoo! account. I ended up using the combined account as my own since she used her business email for her personal stuff too. Well, on separation day, she changed the password etc for the entire yahoo! account so I can't access any of my email, contacts, etc. She forwarded one the other day from my employer, and I replied that she needed to delte the account and forward me all the emails I've rec'd, and she replied that I needed to talk to her lawyer. So, yes, its similar...I feel quite violated having someone view my email without my permission. I'm gradually getting all of the contacts changed to my new email address, but that's not the point...and I lose all of the stored emails i had on that account...forums, old freinds, etc. Anything to piss me off I guess.

what do you think he was looking for? i mean did he have bills coming there maybe in his name that he wanted? if not then that is weird, you might need to get a restraining order against him if he starts doing creapy stuff like that. just make sure you always keep your doors locked!!!

Yes, but don't that have to be caught in the act?

Do you have a lawyer? I'd make a quick phone call to lawyer or even go see your local Postmaster and find out your rights. STBX should not be looking through your mail, especially if he moved out. He needs to change his address to wherever he is staying at.

The one good thing you could do is to get a PO box and have all your mail sent there. Better to protect yourself than for your STBX to be going through stuff when you cannot get to it. Reason being, my STBX is at our house two nights a week with our kids, and he has taken a few of the bills too, and taken the mail from mailbox, only to tell me two weeks later that he took the phone bill, and told me he'd pay it, then for the phone bill to be sent to a collection agency.

Bottom line is tampering with your mail is a federal offense. This is not something I would let go. You need to take care of this right away.

Just my two cents worth :)

I had big problems with my x coming over when I wasn't home, taking stuff (trains for under the Christmas tree, a necklace that belongs to my daughter, some antique menus we had been given, and some other stuff.)

My attorney told me I could change the locks, even thought at that time he owned half the house. She also told me he was legally entitled to enter the house, and could call a locksmith or break down the door with no consequence.

It is really weird that someone who doesn't belong in your house comes over, pokes around...I started carrying all of my legal and financial papers areound in the car. Also a large box of photos. i asked myself what would I really regret him taking? It was the pictures. For a while I had some jewelery in the car, too, but decided that was just too stupid (with my luck, someone would break into my car and hit the jackpot!) so I hid it in the house.

One time, he did his laundry here! he is so dumb he left a bottle of detergent.

He doesn't come around anymore, that I know about. But people around here know the story and would tell me if they saw him. It's one of the reasons I am planning to get a new dog that doesn't know him. What kind of dog loves kids but hates ex-husbands??

Good luck! ~P

Hmmn. Think he's expecting a late tax return? ;) I would put a big stop to that real quick.

AAAAARRRRGGGGGHHHHH!!!! I would bwe soooo pissed off!!!!!!!!!! My x came to get his stereo yesterday leaving me and the kids with no music and preceeded to walk around the house looking in cupboards and closets it was so annoying, I had to give him 40 grand, he needs to stop acting like this is his house, and mind his own business.


KIM