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enter the pity room

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Today is a really hard day. I have this twisting knot in my stomach. I just don't feel like doing anything. Yesterday I made myself get out of the house. Today, I just feel like sulking. This is a horrible feeling. I just want to feel like myself again. I already lost so much of who I am through the years of marriage, I don't want to lose more of myself through divorce. This is supposed to be where I find myself again. UGgggggg Here I am in the damn pity room again. Anyone want to join me? I truly feel like I am going to puke out of pure stress.

Damn the pity room
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I've been in my own room like this for a long time. I think I'll try a different room for a while. You can come if you want.
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sorry michelle, i'm trying to close the door to that room. you will too.
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I spent too much time in that room Michelle. Word of advice....try not to get to comfy in there because it becomes easier to stay.
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I don't want to stay here but I can bring some refreshments for ya'll (see a New York boy who lives in Florida can be a southerner)
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(((Hugs))) You do need to spend some time in that darned "pity room" to take care of yourself...just know when to open the door to get out.

Do you have someone that you can call? Let them know that you need help getting outside?

Some nice people, here, convinced me that I needed to let my daughter get me out of here...best medicine on Earth-and I was so doubtful.

We are all pulling for you.
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The pity room is here for a reason, but it gets easier to come out with time. I hope you feel better soon. It really does get better.
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Sometimes I feel like I am inside doorless pity room. I get over it though. Activity is key to the door I would say. Good luck and smile ;-)
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Your post says you want to get yourself back. That is a good sign that you will tire of the pity room in your own time. Meanwhile, force yourself to be around others. It sounds horrible but usually ends up helping!
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mojo......I am usually a very social person. So it is odd that I am forcing myself to be around people........... Thanks everyone for all of your comments. Hey headroll let me know how it is in the different room. maybe I will join ya :0 Lane mabe you will get there before me, I hope one of us gets there soon. I will try not to get too comfy here. Hey Mike, I want some sushi and lobster k? Aw activity........ go work my stress out.
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Try to be thankful for the better days, and don't beat yourself up about the not so good ones.
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Been there done that. Pity is an enemy of choice, It's hard to make choices when your filled with pity. I truly hate being pityfull. some times it hard not too, good luch to all
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Sometimes the pity days help you to reflect and find out what you are really feeling. I have come to realize they are just part of the process. I don't like them, but I try not to be too hard on myself. My good days are more often, and the pity days are getting fewer. You are such a sweetie and help a lot of people on here.
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I'm just going to join you. For some reason I've been having a big pity party for myself since Sunday. I'll bring the hankies--you can bring the chocolate.
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Can I join you there, Michelle? I've realized through this whole separation journey that I've lost the one other who used to sit and listen, hold my hand and say everything will be OK. I don't have that person any more to share my pity and help lift me up. I only have me.

Some days, I am hosting my own pity party; other days I feel myself rising about all of that and moving forward and feeling empowered.

I just pray that the good days begin to outweigh the pity days and, soon enough, I won't need to visit The Room any more.

But today I do. I hope tomorrow I won't.
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I just enetered the pity room and home to not stay for long. ;)

I hope you feel better soon. I'll send you good thoughts if you will send me some as well. :)
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