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drunken call at 2:20am

deleted_user
deleted_user
So last night I get a call from my STBX at 2:20 in the morning on my cell phone. By the way 2 is when the bars here close. He kicked me and my kidas out on oct 22nd and he has been a jerk ever since I haven't talked to him because he knows what appartment complx I live in but not which appartment. He has called my moms and made threats about hireing a Lawyer if i don't let him see our 3 year old. This man has done nothing but treat me like shit and has been verbally and mentally abusive. When he is drunk he has been physically abusive towards me. I am trying not to be a bitch and file a protection from abuse order because of our child. I also am hopeing that if I don't really put up a fight and ignore him that maybe he won't contest the divorce. But now i'mkind of worried. I know that if he knew which appartment was mine he would have been here last night. It scares me because when he and his first wife split he crawled into her house through the doggie door and got into her bed and tried to rape her when he was drunk. She stabbed him with a pair of scissors. I only found this out a few weeks ago from his son. If I do get a PFA he is going to retailiate because thats how he works. By the way yesturday his sons girlfriend called me to see how I was and how the boys were. She also wanted to let me know that she and David (my step son ) still want to stay friends and would love to bring the baby by and to see Rustin the child i had with STBX. I think it was to find out which apartment i live in. Anybody out there been through this? What do you think?
Thriver
Thriver
This is scary. I don't have any advice for you but do talk to your lawyer about whether the protection order is needed to continue not letting him see the baby. If they are so keen to see Rustin, meet them at the park or someplace. Good luck and be careful.
deleted_user
deleted_user
The baby I was talking about was my steps sons baby our child is 3 and I have let him see him while suppervised at my parents and i had my dad bring him over on holloween. He asked to take him for the whole weekend this weekend and I said Is he on crack. ( becasuse all communication has been through my parents)but i did say he could take him tommorow from 11-6. I am doing this for the sake of our son because i don't want him to be emotionally hurt he loves his daddy. This is so messed up.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I got a drunken call last night too. I just wrote about it in my journal. I wonder if your stbx and my stbx were together last night.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Do NOT let anyone who you think will share info with your ex come to your apartment! You could meet them at a public place and then go to a friends afterwards (so they cannot follow you). For now you must protect yourself...pardon my french..screw everyone else.

My son is a police officer, he's given me great advice on these matters. Make friends with your neighbors....bake coookies for them, offer to watch their kids or dogs...then tell them you have concerns about your ex...let them know what he drives and ask them to watch for that vehicle! NEVER answer your door for anyone you do NOT KNOW. A simple "oh I have the wrong apartment" could be a fishing expedition.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yeah the guy who lives upstairs from me is the sup and he and i have become friends his girlfriend left him 2 days after I moved in. He is going to school to become a cop. I told him everything. He said he is right upstairs if my STBX shows up just scream and he will come. I was also concerned with the fact that they post the last names next to the apt #'s at the entrance way and i was aorried about them posting my name. He said he would leave up the old tennents name. Plus I have a birds eye view of the parking lot and street he can't drive by with out me seeing.

So I'm not the only one who thinks that the girfriends call was a fishing expedition
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